Does it make you unhappy if you are always single?

I know this is a stereotype for this site but I have a new job and then this girl kind of liked me but then went off me. She has moved towards another guy and is they are constantly flirting etc but think they may have slept together the thought of them together makes me so upset but there is nothing I can do. I always get overlooked by women and end up on my own.

I know this is a stereotype for this site but I have a new job and then this girl kind of liked me but then went off me. She has moved towards another guy and is they are constantly flirting etc but think they may have slept together the thought of them together makes me so upset but there is nothing I can do. I always get overlooked by women and end up on my own.

So a woman liked you (but eventually moved on from you) and you view this as getting "overlooked by women"? When she initially showed interest in you, did you reciprocate? she probably moved on thinking that you had no interest in her

So this girl at work liked you... what did you do about it? Did you flirt back? Did you try and arrange to meet with her during lunch or after work? Did you try and get the low-down on her with some of her colleagues? Did you even hint to her that you found her attractive? What did you do to try and get a meaningful connection with her?

If the answers to the above questions are "No" or "Nothing", then you can't blame her from moving on.

For your own sake, remember this:-

1) When someone likes you, you've got a "Use-By" date that's stamped on your ass. I say your ass, cause you never know exactly how long you've got... it might only be a couple of days, it could be a few years. Either way, if you don't make your move by that time, chances are she'll move on and consider other people.

2) If you think a girl is nice, pretty / attractive, or whatever, then chances are AT LEAST one other person has also clocked her... and basically she's going to choose either whoever approaches her first, or whoever is the best fit, based on her own standards, criteria etc.

Bottom line is:- you snooze, you lose.



Exactly this

OP may not have snoozed, just been gazumped

She is sleeping with another guy now. When I asked her about is she lied I think because they are both managers. Can I ask another question say once the girl is with someone else does this form part of why she is much less friendly and kind of offing because now she has someone else.

Might be because you’re asking impertinent questions about who she’s bonking

She is sleeping with another guy now. When I asked her about is she lied I think because they are both managers. Can I ask another question say once the girl is with someone else does this form part of why she is much less friendly and kind of offing because now she has someone else.

You managed to make a girl who (you say) was interested in you change to disliking you, which is quite the achievement. I don't think you should keep on questioning her; trying to guilt-trip her and asking about her sex life definitely isn't going to make her go back to you.