Boyfriend took drugs

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years perfect relationship love each other everything.However before we met he told me he went through a spell of drugs when going out he quit and stopped using and hasn’t took them for 3 years (one year before we got together).He went to creamfields this year and has admitted to me he has used them even though he knows this is a massive no and now I don’t know wether I can trust him after he promised me he would never do them again. What would you do in this situation am I overthinking or is this a huge red flag

Reply 1

BankaiGintoki

21

Original post by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years perfect relationship love each other everything.However before we met he told me he went through a spell of drugs when going out he quit and stopped using and hasn’t took them for 3 years (one year before we got together).He went to creamfields this year and has admitted to me he has used them even though he knows this is a massive no and now I don’t know wether I can trust him after he promised me he would never do them again. What would you do in this situation am I overthinking or is this a huge red flag

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He is addicted to drugs, it is a red flag. So give him some help first to change him for the better. As long as he is not dealing drugs…
https://www.talktofrank.com/get-help/find-support-near-you
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/recreational-drugs-alcohol-and-addiction/support-for-drug-and-alcohol-problems/
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Reply 2

username6318874

7

I think this is the time in his life when he needs someone most. Help him overcome the drugs. Is there a reason for his drug use? .. Depression? Family life? Is he struggling with someone.

If he does it because he thinks it is cool then yes, to me, it is a red flag but if not then he needs you now more than ever.

Reply 3

StriderHort

21

Nah far too vague.

No info as to regularity, drug or why it's a nono :dontknow:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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Original post by affiliated-charm

I think this is the time in his life when he needs someone most. Help him overcome the drugs. Is there a reason for his drug use? .. Depression? Family life? Is he struggling with someone.

If he does it because he thinks it is cool then yes, to me, it is a red flag but if not then he needs you now more than ever.

This was a one time thing he hasn’t taken anything since I believe it was a one time thing

Reply 5

Old Skool Freak

20

Original post by Anonymous

This was a one time thing he hasn’t taken anything since I believe it was a one time thing

Well the fact that he's come clean about it must be a good thing. I'm sure he could have kept it secret from you & you'd be none-the-wiser, no? Even a lot of people I know who are teetotal will have a drink or two on special occasions like Christmas.

I guess it ultimately depends on your reasons for why drugs are a no no, as well as whether or not you believe it was purely a one off... or whether they'll be another "one last time"

Reply 6

BankaiGintoki

21

Original post by Anonymous

This was a one time thing he hasn’t taken anything since I believe it was a one time thing

Thats the problem - you are unsure whether it is a one time thing, or that it always happened… Has there been times when your boyfriend behaved suspiciously. Think back now, notice his behaviour now that you are aware he had done drugs - did you notice a change in his behaviour, that you couldnt perceive before.

Reply 7

karl pilkington

20

What drugs did he take mdma only you can decide whether to dump him

Reply 8

londonmyst

19

Always trust your gut instinct and stick to your dealbreakers. :smile:

Listen to what your common sense is telling you.

It isn't clear whether the drugs are illegal class a substances, lawfully prescribed medications or other restricted substances that your bf has developed an addiction to.
But if your bf is being dishonest, spending lots of cash on his drug habit and regularly committing criminal offences by possessing the drug substances or driving under the influence- it is probably a warning sign that he needs some help from experienced professionals.
Don't be his audience or his punchbag.
Nor the one who lends or gives him the cash to pay for the drugs.

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