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Friend harassing me over my Palestine views

Long story short, my friend is pro-Israel I am pro-Palestine.
I shared the latest stats on my story and she didn't replied to that but decided to message me very hateful messages including I'm a terrorist, uneducated, swearing etc.

I told her I don't want to have a conversation with someone who's insulting me but she kept sharing very biased Instagram posts and just blowing up my phone, harassing me. I didn't message her and she didn't reply to my story this was a separate conversation she intitated/

I've wrote an email to her company and attached all the screenshots of the conversation. Should I send it since she works in a professional environment I feel like saying nothing doesn't do anything I want to request anonymity too.

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It doesn't really sound like you two are friends.
Looks like the friendship is over.
Just block and go NC.

If any illegal offline harassment or online criminal threats have occurred, make a police report with copies of all the evidence.
If not, best not to risk escalating the hostility between the two of you even further by trying to involve her employers.
Assuming that she did not message you from her work email address, her opinions and friendship breakdowns are nothing to do with them.
100% report her to the company, even if your views differ she has no right to harass you like that
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Update: my post was under review so I've just seen everyones replies
I haven't sent anything yet since I was waiting for advice, so I've restricted my friend on Instagram so her emssages go to request and i cans see them without her knowing but shes sending me pics of burnt bodies etc.
I've told her i dont want to continue a convo im not respected in i'm considering telling her work because she's just not listening to me :/
Original post by Anonymous
Update: my post was under review so I've just seen everyones replies
I haven't sent anything yet since I was waiting for advice, so I've restricted my friend on Instagram so her emssages go to request and i cans see them without her knowing but shes sending me pics of burnt bodies etc.
I've told her i dont want to continue a convo im not respected in i'm considering telling her work because she's just not listening to me :/

So you've made it clear to her that you don't want to engage in this dialogue, she has ignored your request, she has been given opportunities to change and has decided she doesn't value your feelings enough to change her behaviour. Looks like she is choosing to end the friendship and to let her know it's over you are going to block her and get in touch with her employer.

Sounds pretty solid to me.
Drop that person. A friend should be human.
Original post by Anonymous
Update: my post was under review so I've just seen everyones replies
I haven't sent anything yet since I was waiting for advice, so I've restricted my friend on Instagram so her emssages go to request and i cans see them without her knowing but shes sending me pics of burnt bodies etc.
I've told her i dont want to continue a convo im not respected in i'm considering telling her work because she's just not listening to me :/

... Why post this anonymously? If your friend sent his and you report it, they sent it to you and it will be obvious who reported it. Just own up to it.

And why post anonymously on here? Your friend probably knows who this is, anyway, if they did it.
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Original post by Anonymous
Long story short, my friend is pro-Israel I am pro-Palestine.
I shared the latest stats on my story and she didn't replied to that but decided to message me very hateful messages including I'm a terrorist, uneducated, swearing etc.

I told her I don't want to have a conversation with someone who's insulting me but she kept sharing very biased Instagram posts and just blowing up my phone, harassing me. I didn't message her and she didn't reply to my story this was a separate conversation she intitated/

I've wrote an email to her company and attached all the screenshots of the conversation. Should I send it since she works in a professional environment I feel like saying nothing doesn't do anything I want to request anonymity too.

Your friend is wrong to harras you for your political views however this is not an issue that involves her employer and it would be poor taste to disrupt her professional life (indeed, this would be an escalation). The correct response is to block her.
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Original post by ThatOldGuy
... Why post this anonymously? If your friend sent his and you report it, they sent it to you and it will be obvious who reported it. Just own up to it.

And why post anonymously on here? Your friend probably knows who this is, anyway, if they did it.

what's the issue with posting anonymously? why do you need to know my account? the main thing i wanted was advice, that's all if you're unable to provide advice then that's fine i don't get how knowing my account will change everything, please do explain

i'm within good reason to just get it and make sure what I've done is the most appropriate thing to do
Reply 10
Original post by Rakas21
Your friend is wrong to harras you for your political views however this is not an issue that involves her employer and it would be poor taste to disrupt her professional life (indeed, this would be an escalation). The correct response is to block her.

yes that's what i did just blocked her and moved on unfortunate as to what's happened. thanks for providing fair advice
Original post by Anonymous
yes that's what i did just blocked her and moved on unfortunate as to what's happened. thanks for providing fair advice

what you should've done, tbf. it's so hard to lose a friend, i know the feeling. i went through a friendship with my similar toxic friend. she was jordanian and completely pro-palestinian. i'm pro-palestinian (i'm also partly jordanian, our families were friends) also, but she would tell me i couldn't support my country because i "didn't care enough" or i "didn't spread the message enough." i was told many times that i wouldn't be good enough to be a jordanian or an arab, and that i should just go to israel and become a prisoner. our families are still friends so i'm forced to still talk to her, but it's hard being in a toxic relationship. good on you for ending it!
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Original post by mmik_mikaeel
what you should've done, tbf. it's so hard to lose a friend, i know the feeling. i went through a friendship with my similar toxic friend. she was jordanian and completely pro-palestinian. i'm pro-palestinian (i'm also partly jordanian, our families were friends) also, but she would tell me i couldn't support my country because i "didn't care enough" or i "didn't spread the message enough." i was told many times that i wouldn't be good enough to be a jordanian or an arab, and that i should just go to israel and become a prisoner. our families are still friends so i'm forced to still talk to her, but it's hard being in a toxic relationship. good on you for ending it!

I would point out to this person that if she lives in the UK, her loyalty should be to the UK and not Palestine (this is one of my biggest gripes with immigrant decendents).
Reply 13
This situation is a perfect analogue for the conflict.
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Original post by mmik_mikaeel
what you should've done, tbf. it's so hard to lose a friend, i know the feeling. i went through a friendship with my similar toxic friend. she was jordanian and completely pro-palestinian. i'm pro-palestinian (i'm also partly jordanian, our families were friends) also, but she would tell me i couldn't support my country because i "didn't care enough" or i "didn't spread the message enough." i was told many times that i wouldn't be good enough to be a jordanian or an arab, and that i should just go to israel and become a prisoner. our families are still friends so i'm forced to still talk to her, but it's hard being in a toxic relationship. good on you for ending it!

that's crazy! im sorry you went through that, i dont know you but what you're doing is amazing and please keep it up even if people are being mean/unfair!!
Original post by Rakas21
I would point out to this person that if she lives in the UK, her loyalty should be to the UK and not Palestine (this is one of my biggest gripes with immigrant decendents).

help yeahhh she's born in liverpool but she hates every second of being from there
she used to hv that REALLY strong accent
lucky me im from london but i lost my accent so 🤭
Original post by anonymous
that's crazy! Im sorry you went through that, i dont know you but what you're doing is amazing and please keep it up even if people are being mean/unfair!!

thank u so much and ur doing amazing too!
Way to end her a$$ omds
Original post by Anonymous #1
Long story short, my friend is pro-Israel I am pro-Palestine.
I shared the latest stats on my story and she didn't replied to that but decided to message me very hateful messages including I'm a terrorist, uneducated, swearing etc.

I told her I don't want to have a conversation with someone who's insulting me but she kept sharing very biased Instagram posts and just blowing up my phone, harassing me. I didn't message her and she didn't reply to my story this was a separate conversation she intitated/

I've wrote an email to her company and attached all the screenshots of the conversation. Should I send it since she works in a professional environment I feel like saying nothing doesn't do anything I want to request anonymity too.

send it
i think in this situation loyalty to UK doesnt mean that much given the situation. also as an immigrant descendant who would identify as British, i think it gives me a less biased view on what the UK does, although i have loyalty to both countries. i don't think you should be blindly loyal to your country.
Original post by Anonymous #1
Long story short, my friend is pro-Israel I am pro-Palestine.
I shared the latest stats on my story and she didn't replied to that but decided to message me very hateful messages including I'm a terrorist, uneducated, swearing etc.

I told her I don't want to have a conversation with someone who's insulting me but she kept sharing very biased Instagram posts and just blowing up my phone, harassing me. I didn't message her and she didn't reply to my story this was a separate conversation she intitated/

I've wrote an email to her company and attached all the screenshots of the conversation. Should I send it since she works in a professional environment I feel like saying nothing doesn't do anything I want to request anonymity too.

Not the reply you guys looking for but if you’re gonna talk about a heated subject, better know the inside out of it before posting something about it.

I myself am from somewhere north of the Israel yet our political atmosphere bares resemblances quite a lot, and when it comes to the war in ME, upon hearing my POW quite a lot of people from different political views label me as a terrorist or a dumb socialist - in fact, being a socialist means getting a lot of mockeries and hate online.

Yet, I generally talk about topics I know well and thus am able to defend my POW respectfully and strongly. If the person in front of me is undebatable then I just leave it there and stop talking.

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