Just want to rant. I am currently the president of a big society at my uni but I am having a lot of trouble with the vice president basically ruining the whole experience for me. I have been in the committee for this society since first year and now I am finally the president so it is quite important for me. I am supposed to be leading and they just try to control everything and tell me what to do. What makes it worse is that they have befriended the whole committee and I feel completely excluded as they all go off and socialise after events and leave me out.
My problem with the VP is that they are basically trying to steal my role and lead the society themselves, they take credit for things I've done and in meetings talk over me all the time to the point I just stop talking and zone out. It's clear they don't respect me as a person and probably feel like I'm socially inferior to them. I am an introverted person and they tell everyone they are very extroverted and have ADHD.
But someone please tell me, does having ADHD make you want to control other people, make big decisions without consulting the person in charge, gatekeep important information, try to talk before anyone else can and claim everything is your idea when in reality - you've just copied everything I've said to you privately before talking to the rest of the committee?? Oh yeah, and once I stepped out of an event for 10 minutes and when we were packing up, they came up to me looking very concerned claiming they hadn't seen me for the whole event where was I? Like literally demanding an answer from me, when I literally helped set up and everyone clearly knew I was there. I actually stepped out to have a quick meeting about a potential collab and in reality I'm sure the VP watched me leave and felt some type of way. I feel so gross how they have a complete lack of boundaries like this and feel like they can keep tabs on me, talk down to me, demanding where I went and who I was talking to.....
What's really weird is that this person also tries to claim they know everyone - I have a friend who I've known since first year and he is very popular. The VP of my society talked to him for the first time last week and now she claims they were always good friends - they even had the audacity to ask me how I know them lol?? I can't deal with this narcissistic crap, they try to take everything away from me like they want to erase my existence. If I confront them everyone will take their side, they have a cult of personality and put on this cute girl act so everyone shows them affection.
A major red flag also - I have seen the VP meet people for the first time and completely lovebomb them, saying it feels like they've know them their whole life and they're already best friends after only talking for an hour.....I've seen them do this with almost every person they talk to at our events. It's hilarious and creepy, and the VP has never talked to me in this way like they do every other person on our committee. It's very clear they don't like me and the feeling is mutual, they probably want to be the president and feel angry that I have been voted in for this position. I am sick of this person, I wish I never met them.