Advice please Muslim brothers and sisters

Didn't the girl want to finish her degree and learn to drive first? Why aren't you waiting for that?

Surnia I turn 24 in December. I’ve put my career plans on hold to base a future around me and her, I’ve supported her in finding the work experience on top of her degree to even get a graduate job now and I am motivating her alongside myself I just need to redo my theory I haven’t forgotten anything practical to get my driving license and certificate but she’s not pushing herself towards that despite saying she will. In September she’s in her 3rd and final year, It’s unfair to say I’ll give reassurances whilst I have no reassurances of my own, nor an idea of when we can marry each other especially when she’s happy and is desperate to get married herself to me.

You are 24, so what?

So what… I want to settle down I have plans for the future. There’s people around me in their early 20s getting married a year after I’ll be 25.

Surnia I turn 24 in December. I’ve put my career plans on hold to base a future around me and her, I’ve supported her in finding the work experience on top of her degree to even get a graduate job now and I am motivating her alongside myself I just need to redo my theory I haven’t forgotten anything practical to get my driving license and certificate but she’s not pushing herself towards that despite saying she will. In September she’s in her 3rd and final year, It’s unfair to say I’ll give reassurances whilst I have no reassurances of my own, nor an idea of when we can marry each other especially when she’s happy and is desperate to get married herself to me.

You are not old. You have your life ahead of you. Getting married a year or two later than you planned is really not an issue at your age.

Have you or your parents spoken with her mother, as has been suggested many times before?
You've known the timescale all along. How is not advancing your own career helping? Don't you want to be earning to live somewhere, buy the essentials etc?

Salaam Brothers and Sisters,
I’m 23 years old with an educational background in Information and Communication Technology. I’ve known a girl for two years with the intention of marrying her we both want to marry each other both my mother and father are aware of the girl and that I want to marry her which is why I have my parents consent although it’s her end that’s the issue every time the girl raises the topic on marriage especially to her mum her mum doesn’t want to hear about it sarcastically shrugging it off or giving a smirk or grin. I’ve awaited patiently for nearly 2 and a half years and when I first came across the girl, started to speak in a rough idea of how long a wait would be she told me it would be 2 or 3 years before getting married what would you advise me to do…have I waited long enough and gave her enough time to tell her parent's and what would you do if I said to her “I’ll give you till the end of the year for an answer” and there’s still no answer to it then.
Jazakallah I hope Ramadan is going well for you all
Thank you

Walaykumassalam,
Have you done Istikhara yet?
Istikhara is basically a way to ask for Allahs guidance on a choice, it is most commonly used for marriage. there are 3 mainsteps.
1) Research (basically doing research on the potential spouse) - I'm assuming you have done this step and have gotten to know more about the sister and her characteristics and background etc.
2) Consultation (Asking for advise of someone you trust and is experienced in the area) - which i belive you have already done by talking to your parents. You could try talking to another person if you like, but this step seemed to be completed
3) Istikhara prayer - Actually performing the prayer and making the dua of istikhara
Before i expand on the istikhara bit, if you haven't done it already... you should know that there has to be pre-requisits.
So one key thing is that you should be 100% set on wanting to marry her when doing this, as then you will take action based of your own desires and you don't truly want Allahs guidance on the matter as your mind is set. So i suggest you try and reduce it down to like 70% by poking some holes in the idea - Question if this is whats best for you... THEN pray istikhara.
HOW TO PRAY ISTIKHARA:
You offer 2 rakats (that are not sunnah or fardh) you could do this after any prayer time eg after praying Asr etc. Once completing the 2 rakat (normal 2 rakat nothing special is needed during the salah)
You read the istikhara dua:
Istikhara Du’a
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْتَخِيرُكَ بِعِلْمِكَ وَاسْتَقْدِرُكَ بِقُدْرَتِكَ وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ فَضْلِكَ الْعَظِيمِ فَإِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلَا أُقْدِرُ وَتَعْلَمُ وَلا أَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتَ عَلامُ الْغُيُوبِ اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ
هَذَا الْأَمْرَ
This is where you mention your need
خَيْرٌ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي فَاقْدُرْهُ لِي وَيَسِّرْهُ لِي ثُمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِيهِ وَإِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ
This is where you mention your need
شر لي في ديني ومعاشي وعاقبة أمري فاصرفه عني وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْدُرْ لِي الْخَيْرَ حَيْثُ كَانَ ثُمَّ ارْضِنِي بِهِ
O Allah I seek your guidance for what is good for me because of your infinite knowledge
I seek the ability to do what I need to do (& make my decision) because of your power & l ask you to grant me from your favour.
Most definitely you are fully capable & I am completely incapable. You know everything & I don't know anything & you (alone) are the complete knower of all those things that are hidden.
O Allah, based on your all-encompassing knowledge, if this matter (you mention the matter here) is good for me in my religious affairs, my worldly affairs & in my hereafter, in my short-term & my long-term, make it possible for me; accessible for me & (after I have achieved it) place your grace in it for me.
Oh Allah, based on your all-encompassing knowledge, if this matter (you mention the matter here) is bad for me in my religious affairs, my worldy affairs & in my hereafter, in my short-term & my long-term then turn it away from me & turn me away from it & enable that which is possible for me wherever/ however it maybe & then make me pleased with it
AFTER ISTIKHARA:
You will get one of 2 signs:
GOOD SIGN:
BAD SIGN:

REMEMBER:
Doing Istikhara doesn't always mean you will have a good marriage - it can be the case where that marriage may be difficult but may lead to something greater in the future - it might mean that this difficult marriage is a way for you to grow etc.
(however this is unlikely to happen if you do istikhara properly)
So ik this was really long, but hopely it helps with your situation brother, just put your trust in Allah and it should all work out Insha Allah.

Thank you