My boyfriend is gross...

Poor personal hygiene is a deal breaker for me. I don't know how you've managed two years with someone who can't wipe properly.

I do ask myself that sometimes.. I guess I'm in the hope he will change. we live separate atm, but its getting to the point where we may start looking for somewhere together. I definitely cant deal with this when i live with him, which is also what prompted me to ask on here. As you said, personal hygiene is very important for me too, which is why i don't understand why he doesnt. I'm a very houseproud person

I'm not a fan of ultimatums, as usually I feel they are made full of emotion for things that cannot easily be changed or are unfair. But I feel that an ultimatum is fair in this situation and the condition, improve you personal hygiene to an acceptable standard, is easily achievable.

"Brush your teeth and stop soiling the bed today, or I'm off tomorrow"
There's simply no excuse for this to be an ongoing issue, it shouldn't take a year+ of 'trying' to wipe yourself, like if he hasn't got it by now..,

I see okay. Thing is I love him a lot. Which is probably why I find this so hard. Im hurting myself either way tbh. Every time i bring it up i feel fricken awful lol.

Yes i think it should be easily achievable. I have already said to him that I will not tolerate it when we move in together. How do you think i could go about it? i think i need a different perspective on it.

Well your choices appear to be put up with it or don't. You've already tried to talk about it loads of times and he's just not doing it, and moving in together won't fix it as he won't just magically start to listen or respect you when his postcode changes.
These are basic self care tasks, why isn't he doing them? This isn't a one of or lazy spell, it's years.

Poor personal hygiene is a deal breaker for me. I don't know how you've managed two years with someone who can't wipe properly.

Anyone who solely uses toilet paper doesn’t wipe properly. That is probably over 90% of the UK population.

I've asked this question on other platforms but unfortunately had no luck with zero replies. I need help and don't really know what to do anymore so i hope i can get some help here...
I have been with my boyfriend (22 M) for over two years now. i first noticed he didn't have good personal hygiene before we even got together, I noticed he smelled sometimes. He is the loveliest guy and has the sweetest heart so I could see past the bad sweat.
After a few months of being together I noticed it was much more, for example, his oral hygiene is awful, he barely brushes his teeth, only when I remind him. He says he does but the plaque and state of his teeth says otherwise (starting to decay at the bottom on a few of them).
Also, this one affects me the most, but he doesn't wipe his butt properly / at all after going to the loo. I tried to forget about it the first couple times and put it to an accident (he used to dirty my sheets when he slept over my house) but then it started to get worse where id have to wash my sheets pretty much every week, which was expensive for me as a student.
I talked to him about this crying and said how it affects me and how he needs to sort it asap. This was 5 months into our relationship when i said this. We are over 2 years now and he still does it. I have had this conversation with him so many times i cant count. He says he will change it and that he is trying. To be honest I have seen some improvement from what it used to be like, but its still happening.
FYI he is a large guy , so i can understand it may be difficult to reach round there, but its been to long. I reckon if he lost some weight it would help. He has been trying to loose weight for the past 8 months, but im not really seeing any change, im assuming because his diet hasn't changed, i've been trying to support him through this too.
Id really appreciate some help with how to get some change. Maybe i'm not saying the right thing? Its like he doesnt care about it enough to stop it, its as though he is comfortable being gross. I dont understand...

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I've asked this question on other platforms but unfortunately had no luck with zero replies. I need help and don't really know what to do anymore so i hope i can get some help here...
I have been with my boyfriend (22 M) for over two years now. i first noticed he didn't have good personal hygiene before we even got together, I noticed he smelled sometimes. He is the loveliest guy and has the sweetest heart so I could see past the bad sweat.
After a few months of being together I noticed it was much more, for example, his oral hygiene is awful, he barely brushes his teeth, only when I remind him. He says he does but the plaque and state of his teeth says otherwise (starting to decay at the bottom on a few of them).
Also, this one affects me the most, but he doesn't wipe his butt properly / at all after going to the loo. I tried to forget about it the first couple times and put it to an accident (he used to dirty my sheets when he slept over my house) but then it started to get worse where id have to wash my sheets pretty much every week, which was expensive for me as a student.
I talked to him about this crying and said how it affects me and how he needs to sort it asap. This was 5 months into our relationship when i said this. We are over 2 years now and he still does it. I have had this conversation with him so many times i cant count. He says he will change it and that he is trying. To be honest I have seen some improvement from what it used to be like, but its still happening.
FYI he is a large guy , so i can understand it may be difficult to reach round there, but its been to long. I reckon if he lost some weight it would help. He has been trying to loose weight for the past 8 months, but im not really seeing any change, im assuming because his diet hasn't changed, i've been trying to support him through this too.
Id really appreciate some help with how to get some change. Maybe i'm not saying the right thing? Its like he doesnt care about it enough to stop it, its as though he is comfortable being gross. I dont understand...

Tbh honest at his age its going to be hard changing him. How has he lived like this for so long and how are you the only person to tell him? Being big is no excuse my husband is big also and a stickler for personal hygiene and perfectly capable of keeping himself clean. How you can kiss someone who doesn't brush their teeth and sleep with someone who keeps messing up your sheets in beyond me.