Boyfriend texting another girl - what should I do?

I have no idea what you should do - and you clearly don't want to break up with him over the texts, and to be fair I wouldn't either... This is why you don't check their facebook or their texts. You don't have the right to know - they are allowed their personal space.. Whether or not he actually loves you is up to you to decide. Perhaps he wants you around for the easy sex, or maybe he likes stability but is getting bored yet is too much of a coward to admit to it. In any case, he's toying with the idea of a booty call - which can only mean there's not enough spice in your relationship (or he's just not that into you, but i doubt that in this case).

So my advice is try to recall the person you were when he fell in love with you... Maybe the fun, flirty, single girl had some mystery to her that he now misses? Basically, get out there, have a few sick nights out, flirt with other people or don't - whatever floats your boat. Obviously don't cheat on him, but try to remember how fun life can be without your boyfriend. And then come back refreshed and give the poor guy another chance - let's hope he won't blow this one!

Good luck

lol I thought your name was foreskin. Im very tired and a lil drunk so sorry.

lol I thought your name was foreskin. Im very tired and a lil drunk so sorry.

Give him the benefit of the doubt but only if you can get over it and not hold it against him. If you can't get over it and properly put it behind you then it's probably best for the both of you that you call it quits.

So last night we were at a party and long story short i changed all their names on his phone to stuff like NAME is an annoying bitch, NAME is a slag, NAME is a desperate whore... while he watched and laughed because he was the one who called them these names in the first place(:

Ugh, I would hate it if my boyfriend were so horrible and derogatory towards his exes. It doesn't paint a picture of him as a very nice person, and begs the question of what he'd be saying about you if you ever broke up ...

Personally I would strongly consider breaking up with a guy who did that, OP (depending on what the relationship/siatuation was like, which obviously people reading this thread won't fully know). I wouldn't be able to get over the fact that he thought about cheating to the extent that he actually propositioned someone (and I know it was only two weeks in, but that should be the exciting time when it's really easy not to cheat!). However, it sounds like you should let it go and forgive him because you clearly want to and you believe he's sorry (though personally I would question whether he would ever have gone through it, even though he says he wouldn't have).

Summary: I'd probably end the relationship, but you probably shouldn't.

The thing is that is what it is like when we are together, exciting and the whole just generally cant keep our hands off each other. Its just because were LDR during summer while not at uni that we cant see each other that often to have this all the time. Although we have only been official for a few weeks we are still extremely close because be spent a year together getting to know each other as friends and 7 months seeing each other before we became official.

I agree the hardest part was the fact that even for a split second he thought about to the point of actually sending that message. He says he was very drunk and it was just a stupid thought that he subconciously didnt actually want. And as for if he'd have done it or not, he swears to me that even if it got to the point where he was round alone with her, when it was about to him he just couldnt have went through with it. Whether that is the true I don't know. I think he does mean that, but my worry is maybe he doesn't even know what he would have done had it come down to it.

it was just a stupid thought that he subconciously didnt actually want

I think he does mean that, but my worry is maybe he doesn't even know what he would have done had it come down to it.

Sounds like he's sorry to me. I know you probs feel upset about things, but the way he reacted shows that he genuinely cares for you, and regrets the texts. If he had been guilty then he would have reacted differently, not to mention not letting you look through his texts. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt personally. Oh and because this has happened don't be tempted to have a quick look through his texts in future "just out of curiosity" lol. It's a slipperly slope and can really ruin things

Sounds like he's sorry to me. I know you probs feel upset about things, but the way he reacted shows that he genuinely cares for you, and regrets the texts. If he had been guilty then he would have reacted differently, not to mention not letting you look through his texts. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt personally. Oh and because this has happened don't be tempted to have a quick look through his texts in future "just out of curiosity" lol. It's a slipperly slope and can really ruin things

It sounds like you want to forgive him, so I think you should. None of us really understand the situation or your relationship properly and none of us were with you when you confronted him about it.

However, I am also in a relationship with a guy from uni, so during vacations we don't see eachother that often either. And I would still go absolutely mental if he did anything like that. I mean, would you have considered sleeping with a guy you didn't even like that much just because he was paying you attention and your boyfriend wasn't about? I consider the fact that he was drunk to be pretty irrelevant, unless he plans never to get drunk again ...



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