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    Being married to as opposed to being engaged to *does* feel different. I felt it after I got married as did my husband. However, I have never felt trapped in my marriage. OP I think you need to talk to your husband about the way you are feeling, he should be the one you can talk to about anything. You say that you wanted to be his wife so badly and now that you have got there you dont want it anymore. Perhaps the grass isnt always greener on the other side?.How long have you been married?. You are still young despite you feeling otherwise. I got married at 23, sort of youngish and can understand you saying you feel old. You really do need to talk to your husband about this.
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    It's too late to apologise...

    I said it's too lateeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...:ninja:

    Don't worry about it OP, you can still live a normal life and go out with student's when you're married at 20. If anything you will be more responsible and mature and won't drink so much and won't harm you're body so much...

    Good luck and have a happily married live...
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    honestly, i reckon 20 is way too young to get married.
    i personally wouldnt touch serious commitment until im 30 so.
    its never too late to get divorced.
    you're still 20. there is time.
    on the other hand, maybe you and your husband just need to be more exciting and act your age.
    marriage doesnt mean having to act like old biddies.
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    Just to let y'all know, I talked to my husband about it, and i've spent a while thinking about it myself, and I realized I just hadn't had a chance to get used to the fact that i'm married (I mean after 19 years of being unmarried ..) I am now feeling really secure, and want to thank everyone who posted for your help
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    Chances are that he may feel the same as you, I think talking to him as another person sid, may be the best option.
    With marriage you've taken on a lot of responisbility. Surely you can still socialise and have fun, just without the dating.
    I think you seem to have just fallen into a category but it's not too disimilar from being engaged.
    Good luck for the future, and I'm sure you will soon feel more settled into married life, or that you will make the necessary decisions to change that, if that's what you feel is best.
    xxx
 
 
 
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