my gf said I should take her name if we get married

Its the fact we both was to pass our names on and hate double names. If i dont pass mine on, my family names in worse trouble than hers is now because she has male cousins but i dont

Surely that's a fairly good reason that your name should be the one you pass on?

I don't see how she could argue against that.

My main arguement is the fact im the only male so am the only one who can pass it on and my name would be as much trouble as hers is now

Without trying to sound confrontational - why is it so important to either of you that children have a name that gets passed on? It doesn't guarantee that it'll be passed on for future generations and at the moment, it sounds as though it's a matter of 'it's important because it. just. is' but is that really good enough for either of you?

Give the b1tch (no offence) a slap for even raising this question.

I understand, she has other sisters who can keep the surname, whilst your the only 1 that can keep yours. If she understands it i dont see why she cant compromise, 1 of her sisters can promise to keep the surname, especially if they marry a bloke who doesnt mind keeping hers.

No it doesn't. Changing from Jones to Smith is very different than changing from John to Sandra. I'm not advocating either option, but I don't think your comparison is reasonable.

I don't see how either the man or woman has a 'dominant' role, whatever that means. Each person has different strengths and weaknesses and brings different things to the relationship.

I don't think there should be an expectation for either partner to take the other's name in marriage.

Its just i want to know i did my bit to pass it on

This is what happens when women are let loose out of bounds of the kitchen and rest of household.

They get these silly ideas in their heads.

what the **** is the world coming to

if you're not going to take my surname, for me at least, there wont be a marriage.

Seriously, just imagine what you just said, but put black slave in instead of women! you just wouldn't that? and you shouldn't! Wft, are people like you still prepetuaing sexism, it is ridiculous. Therefore I say this in the nicest of ways, stop being a Prick.

White man and black man shook hands and settled their differences.

Realizing that the woman could just do all the house work instead.

you're a girl you wouldn't understand, for any guy it's a big deal.

i agree that each person brings different things, but the guy should still be the guy in the relationship, not become submissive to his girlfriend, which taking her surname is the ultimate admission of.

if you're not going to take my surname, for me at least, there wont be a marriage. Fortunately most girls take and enjoy taking the guys name

Why would you put an ultimatum on it? If you respect and want to marry her and she wants to keep her name why would you insist she changes it or the wedding doesn't happen? Isn't it about more than a surname?

And no, I don't understand. Fair enough you don't want to change your name, but can't you then see how hypocritical you're being?