Girls and boys who have stayed with their partners after cheating incurred pregnancy.

So you never asked your bf if he told her he had a gf? I doubt he did tbh, why would he? So yeah, it's really not her fault is it? She was stupid enough to mess her pill up, but this just means your bf probably has a rather stupid child, other than that that girl did nothing wrong. Don't hate her for your bf's mistakes.
And yeah, as I said, if you eventually move in together, where do you expect the child to come visit his father? For the love of god, if you think you can't treat the child with affection, don't stay with him. Don't punish the child for his father's mistakes.

I get what you mean - generally the kid would be brought up by the mother in such a situation, so the girlfriend who was cheated on wouldn't have to have any contact at all with the child resultant from the cheating if she didn't want to. But if it was the girl who cheated on the boyfriend and he stayed with her, obviously the child would be being brought up in their house, so he'd be playing dad to another man's child, so it'd feel like much more of an imposition.

I feel terribly sorry for the children in such cases. A lot of ills in this world come from people being too free and easy with who they leap into bed with.

You're staying with him because you're too scared to move out?

That is absolutely pathetic, get some self-respect!

Some people..

This isn't my own personal experience btw.

L and P are in their late twenties and have been togetherfor a good few years! maybe 6? they both moved up from down south to up north to where I live and I am now really good friends with L, known her for maybe 3 or 4 years. Anyway they had a mini break up and P slept with K and K now has a 18 month year old child.

They had got back together when K told P and it caused proper problems for a good year, L had to go on anti depressants. They always have problems now, they split up because he doesn't want to get married or something (he is away during the week for army training) but they always get back together and do love each other.

The baby doesn't cause a problem it K, shes a complete twit. They work through it though and L only resents K not the child. They 've made it work but its different for every person

No one on here can tell you what to do because it is your opinions that matter. If you love him and you want to work through it then do it, just watch out for patterns of behaviour, you may find it never happens, I know P hasn't.

So really its only up to you

This isn't my own personal experience btw.

L and P are in their late twenties and have been togetherfor a good few years! maybe 6? they both moved up from down south to up north to where I live and I am now really good friends with L, known her for maybe 3 or 4 years. Anyway they had a mini break up and P slept with K and K now has a 18 month year old child.

They had got back together when K told P and it caused proper problems for a good year, L had to go on anti depressants. They always have problems now, they split up because he doesn't want to get married or something (he is away during the week for army training) but they always get back together and do love each other.

The baby doesn't cause a problem it K, shes a complete twit. They work through it though and L only resents K not the child. They 've made it work but its different for every person

No one on here can tell you what to do because it is your opinions that matter. If you love him and you want to work through it then do it, just watch out for patterns of behaviour, you may find it never happens, I know P hasn't.

So really its only up to you

Thank you for something helpful!

Sleeping with someone when you're not in a relationship is quite different to cheating.

Everyone else has been "helpful" as well - you only see this as helpful because it's what you want to hear.

Just do what you want, but I don't see the point seeing as he doesn't have a shred of respect for you.

Yes other people have been helpful since, I said that when only a few people had replied. That isn't necessarily what I want to hear but its something that could happen.

People saying he doesn't have respect for me etc isn't helpful and again, isn't what I asked.

I am not asking what I should do (which you would know if you bothered to read) because I know that it is my decision and I shall make it. I merely asked if anybody had been through this could they share their experiences with me.

If you don't have an experience to share why bother commenting?

Isn't it? I think it is, helping people avoid inevitably getting cheated on once again because they believe that "he'll change" and "it was a mistake."

Why bother commenting? Trying to help rather than sugarcoating the truth. But okay:

I know a million people who got cheated on and he got the girl pregnant. Now they're all happily married and never got cheated on again! They also all get treated like princesses and lived happily ever after!

There's your bull****, hope you're happy now.