We have only been going out for four months, and when I met him I was really attracted to him and in the first couple of months we had some great sex. However, currently I don't see him in a sexual way. There are a few confounding issues I'm not sure what's causing it.
Physically: I think his face is beautiful, but he's put on two stone and is currently doing no exercise whatsoever and is according to BMI, overweight now. He has a sports injury from a year ago but that's affecting one joint, he said he'd start going to the gym before the Christmas holidays and it still hasn't happened. He was also supposed to get this sports injury looked at, but it's excuse after excuse. I find when he eats like a whole packet of biscuits in one go, not even offering me one, really sickening. I'm not sure if it's the fact he's a little overweight now, or just his attitude towards living healthily that I find so off putting. Plus the lack of fitness kind of affects actually having sex if anyone gets my drift.
Not Physically, his uni course really stresses him out and he kind of took his stress out on me really badly a couple of times even saying we were over by text one of the times before knocking on my door an hour later crying saying he didn't know why he said that in the heat of the moment, he didn't mean it blah blah blah. But it did break my trust... I hope if he ever does want to break up for real he'd do it in a considerate way. So maybe that's why I'm physically more closed of from him because I feel hurt? Or it could be he hasn't really coped that well moving to uni and half the time I feel more like his mother looking after him rather than a girlfriend, so maybe that's why?
We had really strong sexual chemistry in the beginning and I want to know how to get it back? My lack of responsiveness to him is making him feel rejected and I love him so obviously don't want him to feel like this.