How can I be attractive?

I am a guy and I just don't know what women find attractive in guys. I only understand why they might like supermodels but regular guys to me don't seem to have anything attractive about them (including myself).

Reply 1

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You're a straight guy? If so it is normal you're not going to see regular blokes as attractive. Straight women aren't looking at men through the same lens you are.

What women find attractive differs woman to woman. Some put more emphasis on looks and others on personality. For some general guidance though: practice good hygiene, wear clean well-maintained clothing/shoes, and make some effort to take care of your skin and hair. Someone who takes care of himself is more attractive than the guy who doesn't shower and wears curry-stained shirts and tattered trainers.

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Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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I am straight so I don't expect to be turned on by men but I don't see what's attractive about vasts numbers of men who women consider attractive. Like 99% of them I don't see as being attractive. Some models or actors I can understand tho but it's not realistic for me to look like that. I can't be 9% body fat all year round and have a six pack and really defined abs. Beyond that, I don't see how I can be attractive to women?

Reply 3

Surnia

Life & Style Forum Helper

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Original post by Anonymous

Beyond that, I don't see how I can be attractive to women?

On my first dinner date with my now- boyfriend - our actual second date - we lost track of time and eventually realised we'd been there 5 hours, it was midnight and the staff were discretely clearing up around us.

What made him attractive enough to date, and then get into a relationship with, is that from having a job in common we have fascinating and fun conversations, we have some similar interests, the same work ethic, but with enough independence to do our own thing, too. Compatability is key!

Reply 4

Willow2502

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Original post by Anonymous #1

I am a guy and I just don't know what women find attractive in guys. I only understand why they might like supermodels but regular guys to me don't seem to have anything attractive about them (including myself).

Aslong as your nice to here and have a good sense of humour, nothing else really matters, thats from my experience. People have different tastes.

Reply 5

leahjanemeasures

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Original post by Willow2502

Aslong as your nice to here and have a good sense of humour, nothing else really matters, thats from my experience. People have different tastes.

Yea I tots agree with you there x

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Willow2502

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Original post by leahjanemeasures

Yea I tots agree with you there x

I think men get judged way too much yk?

Reply 7

leahjanemeasures

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Original post by Willow2502

I think men get judged way too much yk?

Yea ikr like if they are nice who cares ABT looks as much. Like my friends date really mean people just because they look good and I'm like why do u do that to urself yk what I mean ?

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

It usually comes down to your standards or the females ego. Some girls find a guys body attractive some other females like how they act and treat others.

Reply 9

Willow2502

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Original post by leahjanemeasures

Yea ikr like if they are nice who cares ABT looks as much. Like my friends date really mean people just because they look good and I'm like why do u do that to urself yk what I mean ?