Biggest decision of my life

umm.. i wouldn't call them strict, as some of my cousins are in relationships with people of all different religions, like my dads side of the family is hindu and his sisters son is with a chinese girl at the moment, but initially she wants him to settle with an indian, but what's the point of him doing that? i think for asian people, their religion and culture is what they know so much about, and especially if youre the son of the family, they want to be able to do all the traditions and ceremonies as they would if you wanted to marry an indian. Another example is like, my moms brothers son. my moms side is mainly sikh, and their son is with a italian/south indian girl, its crazy how they've all accepted it.. but if im honest with you it always seems so easy for a son rather then a daughter..

as you probably know pride is another major issue that asian families always seem they need to think about, which i really don't understand. why should they care what other people think of what their family is doing, like who are they to judge. but you must be aware, that the biggest conflicting religions are infact islam and sikhism, it's a shame and you really can't help who you fall in love with. and yeah i totally understand where youre coming from with fights and disagreements, but i think that's going to be a part of it if im honest, they're going to want there own way and will show it through that, but somehow something will come out of it/

you're 20 at the moment, have you ever considered waiting a while.. say a year before you want to get married? you may feel like when the time is ready you know that is what you want..

but about your mom and dad being different religons, i think its totally different as hindu and sikhs are both indian and there rituals and culture is similar. but islam is just so different to that, and you're commiting not only to what her family want but to her religion which is so strict, you need to be able to see yourself living that life, not just for her but for the sake of what they preach too..

Main thing is a lot of Western Converts seem to well turn to extremism which is quite sad

Being raised in a Sikh family(although I'm atheist now), I understand how difficult this must be. IN fact, I know exactly what you're going through. My sister is a Sikh and her husband is a Muslim...it wasn't easy. There were a lot of disagreements within the two families and my own family. But it ended up going OK and they're married now.

I don't know what to say because I don't know what your family is like or what the girl's family is like. Maybe they won't make you convert, or maybe they'll beat you up and throw you out of the house...all I can say is you have to decide which you want more in case it does come to a choice - your family or your girl? Tough choice

yeah i've read alot of about that, i respect each religion individually, but i feel that islam is so restricted. and rather then noting the benefits from converting, they really need to understand the depth of what they expect and how someone has to live their life so differently

when the time comes and i do eventually tell my family, and i am positive there will be huge consequences, what am i supposed to do if they dont want to know because that will mean i dont really have a chance with her either... Also do you think i should convert and *try* to pursue a future with her even if my parents say no?

Of course i could still observe the sikh customs, it would be the best of both worlds. It might seem strange to some, but im not a hugely religious guy, so that could work.

how did everything go with your sisters marriage though, how did your parents react? can you pm me please?

What if i converted and i got kicked out of the house, then theres no chance either way, cause think about it, would her parents agree to it still even when my parents arent by my side. i dont want to pick between family and the girl, why cant i have both, i wish they understood that.

pm me please

You are in the bizarre situation that you don't consider one religion strongly enough to keep it, but you want to marry someone you are not sure is worth the risk of changing your religion.

I think the repercussions from the families will be stronger than that from a divine being, but I think any conversion will not be seen as sincere by the person you want to marry.

As an atheist I genuinely do not understand why would any supernatural power care about two meagre people of different religious background just being together. So long as you're happy.

So 4 weeks ago you make a thread about liking a girl at uni and her not txting you back etc etc and now barely a month later your talking about changing religions and love...umm ok then!

What a weird and pointless troll the op is.

For all the people saying i dont have to convert. a muslim girl cannot marry a non muslim. if the marriage was to go ahead (emphasis on IF) then we would want our parents to be there have a proper wedding, not just us two at a registry. cause i know for a fact that would not happen, like i said parents come first for her, and they do for me as well. the only difference is i am willing to fight for what i want, also that they should want to see me happy so why should religion matter?!?!?!