It's a somewhat pathetic case of having had a short but very intense thing with someone, who then emailed me 4 weeks ago that he didn't want to see me again as he felt that he could never truly love me (a gut feeling). So it's over, and I was v much hurt or more aptly put, disappointed as I'd had such high hopes for us and had never met anyone like him, then to be spurned by him like this - of course it's gonna take time to come to terms with it. He has many flaws, perhaps it wouldn't have worked out anyway and I don't even love him or anything, but I think about him an awful lot and find that I can't move on. All other guys I compare to him (he did have many good qualities), but my thoughts being occupied with him are souring my life in general. I know I can't do anything about that and I accept it and try to ignore it and keep myself busy during the day, which actually works OK. However at night, before going to sleep or if I wake during the night, I feel I am less in control, and cannot rein in my thoughts and I catch myself thinking about him and everything that's happened and how perhaps I was to blame (I wasn't) for what seems like hours. This is seriously getting to me and affecting my quality of sleep. What can I do? I've tried various sleeping pills but they've actually worsened it all and instead of helping me sleep have had me think about him even more, lying wide awake in bed, going over every detail.
What should/can I do? (I do wish I'd never met the guy.) Please help.