Spied on boyfriends facebook

No they haven't been very flirty, she has been a bit flirty with him in the past saying things like "if you're ever bored call me " the "hello beautiful" is the only flirty message i've seen i'm just worried about what he replies to the nye arrangement. She really is beautiful, but seems so mean from some of the other messages, like he arranges some lovely things with her several times and she was like "maybe, you know i can't make definite plans" she didn't work so it seems like she was looking for something else, it's just annoying me that she's constantly messaging him (i've seen lots that he's not even replied to) it's like she wants what she can't have now.

I really don't think I can come clean though, I think he'd be devastated about it and quite righly so. I wouldn't want someone doing that to me, but it just sickens me that he's put me at risk now and what if I have an std? He'll think it's my fault but I got tested before we got together and he said he had too, it's just horrible

Him not replying to many of her messages is a good thing, and especially when his messages to her haven't been flirty either. It is likely that she does this to many others, and the fact that your bf isn't replying in the same way just provokes her keep trying.

You should get tested for any STDs. Dont freak out right now because you'll just keep worrying. Chances are, you're fine. Plus you don't 100% know he's slept with these girls... It was an assumption right? Thinking the worst?

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I forgot to add that, there's been no contact with the first girl but there has been with the "beautiful" girl. He sent her a message last week saying "Hello my beautiful xxxx" (her name) but he did make it clear that he was in a relationship with me. But she's now asked him to spend new years eve with her.. he hasn't replied yet but i'm scared! I don't want to look again but it just not nice!

That's not great :/ he shouldn't be calling her beautiful if he's with you, nor should he be calling her his! To be honest, if you don't feel comfortable with checking again, ask him about it. If you've been together for a year he's probably understanding enough to be able to talk to about it! Your fault in looking on his messages is WAY overshadowed by what you found. Just try talking

Yeah I think I might talk to him.. just don't know how to. I feel so sick about it all, can't believe I trusted him enough to not use protection, i'm very scared of getting an std and he's really put me at risk.

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we're in love. I've always had issues in trusting people from past relationships and stupidly I looked at his facebook messages, now I feel really hurt.

We dated for about two months before it was official and were sleeping together for about a month before we were official.

I read the messages from two girls from the week before me and him were official and I really don't like what I found out. I really feel different about him now.

One girl he was messaging how amazing she was and it was obvious that they'd slept together a week before we were together, he was calling her all the nicknames he calls me, which I thought were "unique" to me but obviously not.

The other girl, the messages looked like she was really messing him around, they'd obviously slept together that week and it was obvious that he thought the world of her, he also called her the same nicknames.

Anyway the first girl was really not very attractive, sounded like she was really into him, it actually sounded like she was in love with him. And the other girl was beautiful, but sounded like a bit of a bitch messing him about.

Also, he made a big deal of my birthday (week before we were official) but wanted to do something the day before, he treated me like a princess that day, I wondered why he didn't want to do something on my proper birthday as it was a Saturday, but it turns out he was at a gig with the "beautiful girl"

So it just seems like he had been playing me and chose me because I was reliable or something, I feel so hurt now but can't really say anything to him. Does anyone know how I can get over this? I know it was disgusting of me to look but curiosity got the better of me.

Yes, you're right it probably is a good thing him not replying too often, thank you for listening by the way, really means a lot as I'm uncomfortable talking to my friends.

I will get tested, i'm 99% sure he has been sleeping with this girls one of them was saying "how satisfied" he made her with a and the other was saying about how amazing the oil massages were, which he always did when he wanted sex.
And he replied how great they were too and they were talking about spanking and stuff.. really uncomfortable reading, i'm pretty sure he's slept with both of them in the same timeframe he was sleeping with me which is really not a nice thought, but I'm. just gonna get tested and try and forget I suppose.

Yeah I think I might talk to him.. just don't know how to. I feel so sick about it all, can't believe I trusted him enough to not use protection, i'm very scared of getting an std and he's really put me at risk.

I forgot to add that, there's been no contact with the first girl but there has been with the "beautiful" girl. He sent her a message last week saying "Hello my beautiful xxxx" (her name) but he did make it clear that he was in a relationship with me. But she's now asked him to spend new years eve with her.. he hasn't replied yet but i'm scared! I don't want to look again but it just not nice!

you need to confront him, tell him to stop talking to this girl or it's over.

I would have said let it go based on your first post, but considering you've said he's still talking to her, calling her beautiful and sending kisses i think it's wrong and it should be addressed.