How to not be considered a virgin..

The definition of sex is pretty personal and subjective. I think most people accept that "lesbians have sex with each other", since two girls getting together is identical to a girl and a guy getting together; your friends seem a bit strange in this regard.

Oral sex is sex... there's a clue in the name. Vaginal sex is sex, anal sex is sex, but oral sex is not sex? That doesn't make sense.

In any case, you can't convince your friends and it doesn't matter. If they won't accept that you've had sex, that's their problem. You have had sex - at least by your own definition, and by most people's. If someone asks if you've had sex, you can honestly tell them yes.

It wouldn't make sense losing your virginity to a bj either

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Why?

For me, sex is mutual sexual (and physical) activity between people. And losing your virginity is having sex, so for me, yes you can definitely lose your virginity to a blowjob. Your definition may be different though

The point remains that most people's definition of sex would stretch to include same-sex "sex". The notion that lesbians can't have sex, for instance, is just beyond stupid, and seems a tad homophobic to me. (Only straight people are allowed to use the word "sex"!)

Following your logic, a hand job would be losing your virginity too then. Correct?

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Probably, yeah. I see it as when you might say you've "done stuff", then you've lost your virginity.

The thing for me is - there is no barrier for me between something like a blowjob, and full anal sex. Anal sex isn't too far - or any further at all - from oral.

At the very least, oral, anal and vaginal are all definitely sex, and other things are a bit more ambiguous.

use a strap on

So all these threads about losing virginity at 17, 19, 20, 25 and so on.... All they need to do is put some lube in their hands and do the deed and bang, they have lost their virginity. They did stuff, as you say.