Kissed/touched another guy but does my boyfriend have to know?

I feel sick thinking about it, my hands are sweating as I am typing this message. I can't cope with losing him , but I will once his birthday is over with as I have brought him an amazing gift which I know will bring a smile to his face.

you shouldn't tell him imo because he might break up with you
just don't do it again and you're good to go
what he doesn't know won't hurt him.

What good will it do if you tell him?

Honesty is the best policy, please trust me!

Last Easter my boyfriend did exactly the same as what you did - he went to a party, got really drunk, and made out with some girl. They touched/kissed and he assured me that he didn't sleep with her.

He told me on the same day that it happened because he felt so guilty (honestly, he nearly cried because we were both so upset!) but I forgave him instantly because I understood how hard it was to confess such a terrible thing, and he was so brave.

Obviously I still felt really hurt, but the fact that he was honest about it made me trust him again.

However, recently I found out that he wasn't being completely honest....

He told me before that the girl he cheated on me with was just some random girl, but a few months later he confessed that it was actually one of my friends.

Because basically all of my friends knew, and him, but nobody told me for months, I was miserable for ages because I felt like I couldn't trust anybody, not even my own friends because they KNEW!!

Now my so-called "friends" don't really talk to me anymore because the trust is broken, and everytime I think about it I get so upset. (Really, words cant convey how depressed I am about this...)

So, please don't make the same mistake he did, I beg of you. If you love him and you want your relationship to work, you NEED to tell him, because then it would be easier for both of you to trust each other again.
Also, I can speak from experience when I say that it's really, really crap to be kept in the dark when everyone you I cared about was keeping something from me. Please don't do the same to him.

I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry that happened to you and I hope things work out for you.

my g/f did similar to me 45 years ago but she kept it going for 3 months up till a few weeks before we wed, she never told me - now she ended up sleeping with the guy who was older, married with 2 kids. if she had told me at the time we would have put the wedding off and likely not got married but i was deceived. I found out much later - we did not have mobiles or iphones or facebook or anything like that. all her friends knew and stayed quiet. it was not until later i got wind and understood more of why we in 45 years of marriage were intimate at the most 200 times. as i quizzed her and dug deeper it all came out and believe me it was devastating it took a long time to find out

Withholding all judgement (unlike some of the people on this thread), I'd say your boyfriend does deserve to know. If it was truly out of character, you explain yourself well, and you guys are willing to rebuild a healthy level of trust (which will probably take a while) then he might well forgive you. I wouldn't hold too much hope, because cheating does suck. But, I think that there are worse things you can do to a partner and people have fixed their relationships after this kind of thing before. Even if he doesn't forgive you, it's the least that you could do to respect his right to knowledge.

Guys, this threads like 5 years old lol

Last weekend I went out with a couple of my friends and got fairly drunk, there was this guy who kept coming up to me/dancing with me and I was kind flirting with him. I ended up getting quite intimate with him, we kissed and touched each other a bit but we NEVER slept together nor did I go back to his. Now my friends have all told me not to say anything to my boyfriend because it meant NOTHING and it is complete out of character for me to do such a thing but I can't cope with it and I feel so guilty because it is so unlike me.

What do you guys think I should do?

I don't want to give too much away in terms of my boyfriend/how long we have been together because I know he goes on this site quite a bit hence why I am anon.

S

I'm fully aware. But, internet forums are permanent and there's nothing to say that someone won't be experiencing something similar and, instead if posting their own question, look to this thread for guidance.