Does being unpopular harm your chances of getting a girlfriend?

It possibly could because girlfriends are usually met through socialising

Reply 3

Mockery

Most women will say that it makes no difference but in reality it will. How popular you are and how many friends you have is a good indication of whether you're a likeable character and worth getting to know properly. No friends will make them wonder as to why and they'll aproach you with some degree of caution, if at all.

It's also going to be much more difficult meeting a lass if you don't have friends to facilitate your immersion in the wider public through social events and the likes.

Reply 4

may_1

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Not at all, popularity is such an illusion, not a reflection of who you are at all, no one is any 'better' than another person, outgoing loud people who group together are often seen as 'popular' but those two traits don't make you 'popular'? Any sensible girl you could connect with won't be bothered about popularity, and popularity is all about lots of people being involved- a relationship is just between two people, where no one person is better than the other it's like a mutual connection and understanding :smile:

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Reply 5

NebII

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Girls will say no.

Yes, being unpopular is unattractive. At the very least it is in polar opposition to 'being popular' which is a very attractive trait. Girls like people that other girls like, having lots of friends, especially other women, acts as social proof and indicates that you are a person that is worth being liked. It's a bit of a catch 22.

If you feel like it's an issue, just start practicing your social skills by getting out there and doing activities that you like to do. Also, try to meet and talk to women that you aren't romantically interested in.

Reply 6

Not really because unpopular girls also exist?

Idk it's like when I hear people go on about how being ugly ruins your chances of being in a relationship. Well yeah, maybe, to an extent. However watch Jeremy Kyle and realise that people end up with someone else in one way or another, if they really want.

Reply 7

Original post by Mockery

Most women will say that it makes no difference but in reality it will.

Uh, assuming that OP is a straight male, surely women's opinions matter more here, as they are the ones he'll be trying to date?

Reply 8

Mankytoes

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Original post by jessamelia

If a girl only wants to go out with you because you're "popular" then maybe you shouldn't be going out with that girl. I don't think you being "unpopular" as you say should affect your chances of getting a girlfriend as long as you're a nice enough person and maybe try to make some good reliable friends and branch out and communicate with people more

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No girl is going to go out with someone just because they are popular, it's just one trait that affects attractiveness.

I like how you've basically just said he should become more popular!

I think being popular is definitely an attractive quality for women. It may not be particularly rational, but attraction isn't rational.

Original post by Катя

Uh, assuming that OP is a straight male, surely women's opinions matter more here, as they are the ones he'll be trying to date?

I think girls often say what they think is right, rather than what happens in reality. For example, they often say things like "to get with girls you need to treat them like a princess, not be rude or arrogant", when with life experience you'll know that isn't true.

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Reply 9

Mockery

Original post by Катя

Uh, assuming that OP is a straight male, surely women's opinions matter more here, as they are the ones he'll be trying to date?

Indeed that would be true, but women are often more concerned about not appearing shallow than they are about helping a stranger on the internet. Your own answer wasn't very informative and didn't give any insight as to whether popularity would have any effect on your partner selection :wink:

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Reply 10

Original post by Mockery

Indeed that would be true, but women are often more concerned about not appearing shallow than they are about helping a stranger on the internet. Your own answer wasn't very informative and didn't give any insight as to whether popularity would have any effect on yourpartner selection :wink:

Well, my best relationship/fling/whatever to date has been with a pretty damn unpopular guy. *shrug*

Reply 11

NebII

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Original post by Катя

Uh, assuming that OP is a straight male, surely women's opinions matter more here, as they are the ones he'll be trying to date?

You'd think, but no, men shouldn't take advice from women about women. Women give THE worst advice because they simply don't tell the truth.

In my experience a lot of women mean well but end up giving advice based on some romanticised version of reality that is just proven to be wrong over and over again. The advice tends to be based on what the female advice-giver wishes were true about them self.

When men give advice about women it's usually based on the reality of their past experiences.

Reply 12

Original post by NebII

You'd think, but no, men shouldn't take advice from women about women. Women give THE worst advice because they simply don't tell the truth.

In my experience a lot of women mean well but end up giving advice based on some romanticised version of reality that is just proven to be wrong over and over again. The advice tends to be based on what the female advice-giver wishes were true about them self.

When men give advice about women it's usually based on the reality of their past experiences.

You say that, but most of the male-to-male advice on here (about women) that I've read is pure BS.

Reply 13

Ripper Phoenix

sad as it seems.. its true though!

Reply 14

Mockery