I've been with him for a couple of years, but he had feelings for a long-term friend for years, roughly 3 years.
I've had crushes before that have lasted a few months, but to like someone for 3 years seems out of this world to me.
They continued their friendship during the first few months of our relationship. After that they lost contact, he claimed she wasn't interesting anymore, they had nothing in common, stuff like that. They haven't spoken for almost 1 year to my knowledge, and haven't seen each other for nearly 2.
He asked her out (a while before me) and she said she 'would consider it' but then later said no. She never confirmed whether she liked him or not.
He had several female friends as well before her and at the time we met, but he never made any effort with them. They eventually all lost contact and to be honest he doesn't seem to give a toss. He certainly didn't seem anywhere near as bothered as he did about this girl (let's call her Sarah)
During his friendship with Sarah he made so much effort (even when with me) it was him texting her, and he doesn't really seem like that with other girls. He never actively texts other girls to try and arrange stuff, he only did that with her.
She apparently always acted weird with him, his friends thought she liked him, and even though she has a boyfriend now, sometimes I feel sick.
She was the only girl friend he liked photos on facebook of ( I mean actual close-up face pictures) and while he's with me, he never truly knew how she felt.
Should I talk to him about this? I have been insecure about it in the past, and he's tried to reassure me, but sometimes he got annoyed about it I think. I have never met her either.
I don't know what I could achieve from it, but sometimes I get scared that she was his true love and he misses her, and he's a bit depressed these days too. However, I am probably just being stupid, but I really wanted to talk to someone about this.
Does anyone have a similar story? Thanks a lot.