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POLL: Do you get along with your own gender?

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Original post by ArtGoblin
It is sexist as I have already explained because it is saying that this group are not like other women; they are more like guys, and so all other women who don't fit into this category fit the bitchy female stereotype. It's fine to have a preference of personality type in friends - everyone does. What I'm questioning is why people thing that gender is a personality type and why only women have to pass this personality test but men are apparently fine just because they're men?

Gender isn't part of a personality - I don't care what they are. I have just found that overwhelmingly the people I get on better with are guys.
Original post by vickidc18
Did I say "All" girls no I said most "Not All" get your facts right before you jump down my throat.


Yeah but its people like you that get some sort of jealousy complex over girls with majority male friends, you probably think they have romantic interest in them and have warned your partner away from female friends on more than one occasion...

Especially given you don't seem to understand that men and women can have a totally plutonic relationship.
Original post by vickidc18
Did I say "All" girls no I said most "Not All" get your facts right before you jump down my throat.


Why do you think girls who are friends with guys are bitches?
Original post by SamTheMan95
What I've noticed is very few guys like being friends with an alpha male. The best group of guys are usually ones where there's no obvious alpha. If you don't try to be the alpha, you'll have good friendships with other blokes. If you try to be an alpha, you'll attract other alphas and you'll forever be in competition.


I agree with this actually.
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Original post by redferry
Yeah but its people like you that get some sort of jealousy complex over girls with majority male friends, you probably think they have romantic interest in them and have warned your partner away from female friends on more than one occasion...

Especially given you don't seem to understand that men and women can have a totally plutonic relationship.


yes they can have a platonic relationship it's certainly possible, on the other hand I've seen so many guys who are best friends with a girl get "friend-zoned" repeatedly they start off just being friends but develop romantic feelings, be honest have you been friends with a guy then found out he likes you in a romantic way? I have 3 times and it causes so much stress and feelings of guilt I'd rather keep male straight friends at arms length.
Voted for the third one, but technically I'm not a boy I'm a man 😏

But yeah, I get on well with other guys but I also get on well with girls
i need to get on with girls im a lesbian
Original post by vickidc18
yes they can have a platonic relationship it's certainly possible, on the other hand I've seen so many guys who are best friends with a girl get "friend-zoned" repeatedly they start off just being friends but develop romantic feelings, be honest have you been friends with a guy then found out he likes you in a romantic way? I have 3 times and it causes so much stress and feelings of guilt I'd rather keep male straight friends at arms length.


Well of they think theyre being friend zoned these men have some serious entitlement issues that need addressing....

There's only one and he always liked me in that way from day 1. Other than that no. And the vast vast majority of my friends are male.

Quite a few liked me from the beginning looks wise but once we are friends all that goes.
Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
Why do you think girls who are friends with guys are bitches?


There's a few examples, my brother was very close friends with a girl who had many male friends (not many female) my brother fell for this girl and she used him for her own self esteem so many times, when she knew how he felt about her. If she was a nice person she would have distanced herself from him and allow him to move on. I've met quite a few other girls like this in my life, who use the friendships of these guys to make themselves feel better. I'm not saying all girls are like this but I've met a fair few in my time.
Original post by redferry
If it helps, I would identify a certain type of women I don't get on with, and would also group a portion of gay men in with them. However I would still describe it as 'I don't get on with most girls because most girls hate me'.

Certain guys hate me too mind, just in lower numbers.


I think straight men get away with being bitchy much more though - I know some really bitchy straight men but no-one sees them as a bitch because people just don't call them that. Girls are also encouraged into competition with each other in a more serious way than men are which does affect our relationships with each other, but I think mainly it's down to perception. We pick up on certain traits and behaviour because we're looking for them.

I find it odd that most girls hate you. What are you doing for most girls to hate you?
Original post by Skratch My Itch
The problem is that people don't dislike all women, just women like yourself who constantly pick at everything and infer that your under attack from those who you think purely and absolutely hate women. Using labels to explain that she generally gets along with what she calls "guy girls" is not misogynistic or saying that men are superior, but that they are her PERSONAL preference of personality type in regards to female friends. You need to stop reading into things so much.

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There's no such type as 'guy girls' because many different sorts of women can fall under that kind of category. I know many kinds of men who wouldn't have similar interests to Tyrion for example, plus I get along well with guys and am a 'guy girl' yet again, I'm nothing like her and I doubt we'd have much in common.

There's a big difference between preferring to socialise with one gender and not being able to get along with them. I also think it's kinda closed minded to only befriend people who share the exact same interests you do.
Original post by redferry
Well of they think theyre being friend zoned these men have some serious entitlement issues that need addressing....

There's only one and he always liked me in that way from day 1. Other than that no. And the vast vast majority of my friends are male.

Quite a few liked me from the beginning looks wise but once we are friends all that goes.


Entitlement issues? Girls get friend zoned too, it's entirely natural if you spend a lot of time in someone's company you might start to develop romantic attachments to the other person. It's perfectly fine to have friends of the opposite gender but if the other person starts to fancy the other one it's entirely unfair to carry on the friendship as if nothing as happened,
Original post by Nomes89
There's no such type as 'guy girls' because many different sorts of women can fall under that kind of category. I know many kinds of men who wouldn't have similar interests to Tyrion for example, plus I get along well with guys and am a 'guy girl' yet again, I'm nothing like her and I doubt we'd have much in common.

There's a big difference between preferring to socialise with one gender and not being able to get along with them. I also think it's kinda closed minded to only befriend people who share the exact same interests you do.

Yeah of course many types can fall under a category, but if people didn't ever generalise, no-one would ever be able to get a point across, but I do agree that having friends with some degree of varying interests can have its benefits. Most of my friends all have different interests. Like no-one in my circle is remotely interested in Music Production, other than me.
Original post by Nomes89
There's no such type as 'guy girls' because many different sorts of women can fall under that kind of category. I know many kinds of men who wouldn't have similar interests to Tyrion for example, plus I get along well with guys and am a 'guy girl' yet again, I'm nothing like her and I doubt we'd have much in common.

There's a big difference between preferring to socialise with one gender and not being able to get along with them. I also think it's kinda closed minded to only befriend people who share the exact same interests you do.


I'd class myself as a tomboy, I easily get on with males I like online gaming, football etc but I socialise mostly with females because it's easier for me to maintain a close relationship without any of the strings that could possibly arise.
Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
I'm boring because I enjoy spending time with my partner? :lol:

People have bad experiences :dontknow: I don't think that automatically makes someone sexist


No, you're boring because you don't have a life outside of your partner. They're the worst type of people to be friends with (much worse that bitchy women!).

If we say 10% of the population is classed as intelligent (it's probably more than that),don't you think it's a bit suspicious that someone would say they've never met an intelligent woman? I would think they were so blinded by prejudice that they didn't recognise one when they saw her.
Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
Was going to suggest being friends until I saw that :hand:


Super man is such a lame hero.

Most DC heroes are lame tbh.

Marvel ftw.
Original post by ArtGoblin
I think straight men get away with being bitchy much more though - I know some really bitchy straight men but no-one sees them as a bitch because people just don't call them that. Girls are also encouraged into competition with each other in a more serious way than men are which does affect our relationships with each other, but I think mainly it's down to perception. We pick up on certain traits and behaviour because we're looking for them.

I find it odd that most girls hate you. What are you doing for most girls to hate you?


Agreed 100%. It's all down to perception. I've worked in male dominated environments and I was surprised how essentially bitchy most of the guys were...only no one would ever use the word 'bitchy'. Men can get away with a lot of offensive behaviour under the guise of 'banter' and to me it's very similar to the double standard with regards to sexual promiscuity.

That being said, guys tend to be less sensitive so if you have a certain type of humour, it's a lot less likely he'll be offended than if you said the same thing to a girlfriend. Sense of humour is the main reason I prefer male friends.
Original post by SmallTownGirl
But you're assuming things about nearly half the people on the planet. Like that they're boring and bitchy. You don't know all women so you can't say you don't get on with them.

Plus, I have different interests to a lot of my friends - doesn't mean I don't love them to pieces.


I completely agree with this - I have never found common interests to be that important in friendships. The best friendships are when you grow into each other; you start developing an interest in stuff they like and they do they same with your stuff. :love:
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Original post by Tyrion_Lannister
Movies always show girls with lots of girlfriends, and guys with guy friends, and people always seem to assume you have friends of the same gender. How common is this actually? I've never had female friends, ever. Even as a little girl, I played with boys. My teachers used to remark on it. Even though I now have some female friends, my friendship group is mixed and very male heavy. I've never got on with girls, on the whole they just don't like me. I tend to find girl groups bitchy and I can't be arsed with it


oh of course, because it can't be your fault, every girl you've met is to blame for you not making female friends, it's not one of your own personality traits causing this... :rolleyes:
Original post by Skratch My Itch
Yeah of course many types can fall under a category, but if people didn't ever generalise, no-one would ever be able to get a point across, but I do agree that having friends with some degree of varying interests can have its benefits. Most of my friends all have different interests. Like no-one in my circle is remotely interested in Music Production, other than me.


True but in this case the generalisation is too broad and effectively meaningless. OP stated she gets along with 'guy girls' but then this isn't true if a significant proportion of guy girls don't share her interests/personality like myself.

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