I love my boyfriend but want to f*ck other guys.

Debbie, you have confused love with lust, what is love ? It means putting the other person above your needs and desires and wanting the best for them, you are clearly not mature enough to be in a relationship, how would you feel if your boyfriend told you he wants to sleep with other woman and in doing so kick you o the curb ? Debbie you need God, you need Jesus, seek him and as the bbile says he will give you living water.....but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life."... repent and believe in Christ as you are lost.

I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I'd never cheat on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand... (In my head)
I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?

Well, chances are that you just have a high libido. If you were a man, I don't think anyone would have an issue with you thinking like this.

You should just bear in mind that this is the opposite of what usually happens. Compartmentalising sex and love like this is typically regarded as masculine thinking in social stereotypes, so people don't know how to take it when the situation is reversed. That's probably why you're getting so many negative responses.

I will just say, this is natural in a long-distance relationship. They rarely work out. If someone's not around most of the time and you're mostly interacting with other people, you'll be drawn to the people you can be around in the moment rather than the distant one you made a commitment to earlier. You might regret that later on, but in the moment the available partner seems more appealing than a lonely sense of duty. Especially when the person isn't even around to scold you or be disappointed in you.

Some people stay in relationships for love. But you seem like the kind of person who has other... needs. So you're not happy in your relationship because your boyfriend isn't around to meet those needs. Since you may very well be a high libido person, this is frustrating for you. And being a girl, you probably feel somewhat guilty about it because you think you're supposed to be the stronger one.

I would say that you might need to think about whether you want to stay in a long-distance relationship. Will the situation change any time soon, within a few months? Or will this go on for years? I think that when the two of you can be together in person, a lot of these feelings will go away. But if that's not going to happen for a while, your frustration might become unbearable.

Only you can decide what to do about it. I suppose you could even point out to him that you are... lonely, and ask for his permission to sleep with someone until he gets back. Some people will agree to such things in an LDR situation when you point out that they aren't there for you, but lying and sneaking around is always a bad idea.

My faith in humanity is gone XD
You told your boyfriend this and he DIDN'T dump you? O.o

I doubt it'll last much longer

That's the issue with the Internet - it's so easy to misinterpret what someone is trying to say. Didn't mean for it to come across that way

I'll be honest in that he makes you "feel" like a horrible person because you are a horrible person to an extent...


How else do you expect to feel? Not exactly going to get a knighthood or peerage are we...

It's been like 7 months... So nearly 9 months by December. That's long lol

The correct thing would I guess be to discuss with your boyfriend. He may be understanding and say its fine. Though it would depend a lot on how comfortable you feel with each other, and the nature of your relationship generally.
Where are you both in relation to each other? Far?

Ahhh, you're one of those open-relationship types. Lemme have a go on your missus then

That's not what I'm debating I'm debating whether it's ok to be in love and be sexually attracted to other men and fantasise about them. I think my feelings are natural, I only feel bad about it because my boyfriend insists that he is only attracted to me.

I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I'd never cheat on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand... (In my head)
I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?

I'm in an LDR and don't think about ****ing other guys. You're clearly not happy in the relationship or you wouldn't want to cheat.

"I absolutely love my boyfriend" clearly if you want to shag another guy this isn't true...

I'm in a LDR whilst my boyfriend studies abroad for a 18 months!!
I absolutely love my boyfriend, he's amazing and I'd never cheat on him but it's seriously difficult to not look at other guys during this time and imagine having sex with them. I just want a one night stand... (In my head)
I tried to bring it up with him because I believe in honesty but obviously he wasn't happy to talk about it and just told me that he doesn't look at other girls at all...
He makes me feel like a terrible person but surely it's natural? Does this mean that I'm not really in love because I can separate the two things?