Right. My mum is a cow

First off I know everyone has their own issues to deal with but I've no idea wtf to do with mine or who to turn to because

1-my mum disowned me in Oct 2013 and I officially moved out in March 2014

2-Idk where my dad is, I haven't seen him since I was 12 and his family are c*nts

3-My mother's family are too far away and even if they were nearer, they're HER family, HER brothers, HER sisters, HER aunts, uncles whatever. They know/care about her more obviously. Plus she's told them things/lies about me over the years to justify the wrongs she's done to me that they've learned about (ie: asking them to take me from her some years ago and just going to them about other sh*t)

4-my real life mates for some reason look up to me so I don't want them to see me like this lol

5-my girl broke up with me a couple wks ago because I subconsciously took my anger out on her since I suppress sh*t all the time

so I turn to you

But here's the situation, long story short, brace yourself:

and how do you live?
do you work?
where do you live?

I would say sit down with her,when she's in a positive mood and tell her how you're feeling and see what she says

I think we're 10 years passed that kind of relationship but I'll see, thanks.
I know your parents have passed but it seems they loved you deeply, am i right?

You have to understand that for a person to be so horrible, they've had horrible **** done to them although its no excuse. My mother is kind of on the same level but I live with her >.> I used to be so angry with her and hated her and everything she said was always so hurtful and her behaviour has affected my mental health in the long run, but then I realized WHY she was like that and although she's still horrible to me I'm a bit more tolerant to it now and I almost pity her. Her mother is an absolute monster and has abused her her entire life and to make matters worse her mother is still present and still has a lot of control over her. Sometimes you have to realise that its not that they hate you but that they have other issues going on that makes them act like that. No mother wants to disown their child for no reason.

i know I don't know you butttt don't call your mum a cow no matter what she does.

try to keep the peace the best you can for your younger sisters sake because she doesn't want to see you and your mum fighting and she's going need you around to take care of her if your mum doesn't treat her right either.

And also, just try to stay calm. Easy for me too say but see things from her side if it helps, her husband left her, money issues, trying to be a good mum but not being able to look after you properly... Etc but love her unconditionally and hopefully once you talk to her when she's in a better mood you can try to salvage what you have left.

Essay over

Right so the squeaky wheel gets the oil; she's the nutty one but I should ignore how I feel, what I think, for her when she was completely in the wrong. I see. I just need to see how people outside the situation think and apparently I'm in the wrong when I'm not in the wrong She gets away with murder simply for being a mum. You know her issues become mine. They were mine when I was younger. They still are mine because I have to deal with her shtty choices and the aftermath. Her husband left her, but he was my dad who left me. She has money problems but that means I went nights hungry. I'm over that now, I don't sit around in bed crying about that sht anymore but days like this I think it over, yes. Idk.
I could try talking to her but I've already done that. This was just an unlucky situation. For the money to be wet and so she won't believe it blew off the table. Even though sht dries And if I find it (I did find it) I mean she'll just think I am returning what I "took" out of "guilt" when truth is, the sht just blew off. It's small sht like this that ****s everything up between us. Yet as a teen I came home smelling like vagina and sex and weed, high and bloody froma fight, and she says nothing. She's weird as ****.

Im not saying you're too blame. Definitely not. And I'm not saying your mum should be excused for what she's done. For a mother, her child should always come first no matter what happens and the child should be number one priority but for her to do that might mean something is going on with her and she needs you even if she is horrible to you.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through. Hope it helps. If not I'm sorry again

Any bit counts, no worries x.
But Idk wtf to do for her anymore. I try to be honest and return the money but ok. All she had to was bend her big ass down and look around on the floor ffs.

Just be there for your younger sister.

And maybe she didn't think of the fan... People always assume the worst you can't fault her in that but accusing you yes you can....

But just be patient. Hard as that is but try your best.

@CoolCavy thank you thank you thank you for contacting z33 for me!! she's helping a lotttttttttt <3

well i didn't really do anything apart from tell you
but np
glad it is helping x