What can I do?
I'm really sick of being called 'cute' and people saying I look 'innocent' when I'm closer to 30 years old than 20.
I'm often put in what I would call the little sister zone even by men that are younger than me. Men don't take me seriously and they infantilize and desexualize me. There hasn't been a single occasion where a guy hasn't called me 'cute' when we got talking and they always end up going with a woman who is actually hot in the end.
I don't even feel like I can be a grown woman or fully sexual because I look like a young teenager. I prefer and want to date older men (aged 30-40) but the only ones that approach me are perverts who think I'm underage get off on that. I've tried dressing older, wearing heels, smart tailored clothes, red lipstick etc. but it doesn't work not to mention that I look like a girl who raided mummy's closet. Basically I look like a 'try hard' and it's so frustrating.
I have never been in a proper relationship. I am at the age now where if I don't get going soon it may be too late for me to have companionship and a family and to be honest I'd rather kill myself than be a cat lady. I know if I were smoking hot I would have men eating out of the palm of my hand, not that I aim for that but what I'm saying is I would have the future I dream of laid out for me just like I would just have to lye back and take my pick!
I just want a nice, wholesome guy who I can care for. Even if I do the approaching first they always go off in the direction of some bad-ass chick (I'm sorry I'm tired, can't think of another word) who usually treats them like rubbish and nags. Seems that's the kind of woman they want and that ropes them in and deep down that's what I think I am going to have to become to get anywhere in the life. If any guy is attracted to innocence like I seemly have that is only to corrupt it and take advantage i.e. the bad guys and that's not what I'm interested I run for the hills.
TL;DR I'm in my mid/late 20s innocent looking, men desexualise me and hence don't see me as relationship material. I'm thinking of trying to look like the opposite and increase my sex appeal. What can I do? Attitude, clothes etc?
I'm sorry that was so long. Please help me before I have to start buying the cats x