Why do guys stop women in the middle of the road?

I can't stand guys who harass me in the street. My reaction gets more and more aggressive and each guy can't understand why I tell him to f**k off and go f**k himself because he doesn't realise that he's like the latest in a long line of creepy, pervy, leery, lechy men.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Judge Jules

It's not thirsty or creepy because men have always approached me this way and some of them have been really good looking, infact i met a model just walking down the street 6 months ago. I was really flattered but obviously if you do not like the look of someone you will think it's creepy but if it is someone you like and you end up being in a long relationship with them or friends then you will be glad they had the balls to aporoach you or you would never have met.
It's perfectly harmless and a great way to meet someone.
Not everyone has success meeting someone in clubs, bars, speed dating, Tinder and other social media so just asking a woman out on the street does work for some people. An ex friend met her fiance this way.
But i do hate the disgusting men who do it just so they can ask for a one night stand or say they do not want a relationship, just fun. I hate men who do that but if they are genuine and want a serious relationship/ girlfriend then there is nothing wrong with taking the chance.
Men are always saying hi to me too, but these men are all ages and old men but sometimes they do not try to follow it up with a conversation so i do find that weird because what is the point of that ? Although i am always glad they do not try to talk more after saying hi if i do not fancy them.

He was persistent because he was hoping you would change your mind or at least get your number
When men are persistent and will not go away i just lie and say i have a boyfriend but men are so stupid they will say well we can be just friends then i tell them my boyfriend would not like it but they still keep persisting. Those one's that can't take no for an answer are the idiots that get on my nerves but as long as they are polite or respectful then it's ok. I do not like men who get angry if i say no then start shouting do you think you are better than me ? But that only happened to me once and this is why sometimes i have to lie to them by saying i have a boyfriend so they will go away.
But i hate security guards asking me out because i feel uncomfortable to go back to the shop because i have to have a conversation with them every time i go there.
But if a man asks me out on the street i do not always see them again or i can avoid them by crossing the road

Don't get me started on the security guards! I can't go back to Aldi because of this one hunk who won't stop whispering weird things in my ear every time he walks past. It's creepy as hell!!

You see if you were in my shoes you wouldn't have thought this guy was creepy. He isn't bad looking and he's got charisma. However you just don't know what he's like under that mask..some men have a way with their words and can sweep a woman off her feet. However my instinct would tell me to run. I prefer to meet someone at university or work, not a randomer in the street. He didn't want to be more than friends and I told him what if you wanted to be more than friends..it happens, but he's full of confidence and redirected it back at me insinuating that I might like him more Han a friend! However he was calm and talked in a jokey way..and left on a good note but I really should have walked away and not wasted my time with a stranger. Lesson learnt.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by abc:)

I can't stand guys who harass me in the street. My reaction gets more and more aggressive and each guy can't understand why I tell him to f**k off and go f**k himself because he doesn't realise that he's like the latest in a long line of creepy, pervy, leery, lechy men.

I hope one day I'll be as brave as you are! The thing is what holds me back is they might be aggressive if you rejected them and they might do something bad

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Sara_t

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Some guys really do not get the hint that you want them to go away unless you're very obvious. And that's annoying because it means you have to be rude even if he's not a bad/creepy guy.

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abc:)

Original post by Anonymous

I hope one day I'll be as brave as you are! The thing is what holds me back is they might be aggressive if you rejected them and they might do something bad

Usually they just say 'what's your problem I'm being nice' or 'you're ugly anyway'

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Original post by abc:)

Usually they just say 'what's your problem I'm being nice' or 'you're ugly anyway'

Yeah , i hate those guys who say you are ugly just because you ignored them or said no but they did not think you were ugly when they asked you out
I have seen men telling a woman she has a nice ass as she walked past and she swore at him then i have seen a man shouting at a woman and calling her every filthy name under the sun just because she said no but not all men are nasty like that. I do not know who taught them to treat women this way but i still think it is a good way to meet someone and it is only luck if you do meet a nice, respectful man this way.
If a man is polite, i really do not mind but men are always whispering sexy as i walk past, i hate it. Those are the idiots that spoil it for other men.
I think i dress like crap but sometimes i do make an effort to dress nice but i do not wear mini skirts or revealing clothes and i am no supermodel so i do not get why they keep talking to me. And although it is extremely shallow to say i only like it when a good looking man asks me out but not the unattractive one's but everyone is like that, even if you met someone in a club or uni you would still prefer the good looking guy to ask you out.

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Angry Bird

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Original post by Asiangirl_18

Guys can be such creeps sometimes. Like what makes u think ur gonna pick up a girl like that?

how do they pick up a girl then?

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abc:)

Original post by Judge Jules

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Yeah I genuinely don't mind if men are friendly and/or funny. Like once I was out jogging with a friend and a guy said 'here I am ladies your search is over' and I dunno, it was clearly a joke and it was funny, and I moved on with life. Similarly if I strike up a conversation with a guy spontaneously that's fine.

But when a guy who's often about 10 years your senior tells you that you're fit, whistles, shouts out his car window, etc. etc. that is not ok. He knows and you know that he's not trying to make friends or genuinely attract you. He's doing it because he knows [or thinks] he can with no consequences and that isn't ok :/

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ForestShadow

Original post by Lord Samosa

I prefer to skip the questions and just grab them by the pus*y

Since when were you a f***boy? :holmes:

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ZoÃ«C

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because they've never been socialised to understand basic social cues that indicate disinterest or even fear... plus the self entitlement they've never been taught to actively challenge....

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trustmeimlying1

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Original post by saraxh

It's kinda creepy when a guy who looks around 50 says hi to me on the street.

Hey boo

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Original post by Anonymous

Don't get me started on the security guards! I can't go back to Aldi because of this one hunk who won't stop whispering weird things in my ear every time he walks past. It's creepy as hell!!

You see if you were in my shoes you wouldn't have thought this guy was creepy. He isn't bad looking and he's got charisma. However you just don't know what he's like under that mask..some men have a way with their words and can sweep a woman off her feet. However my instinct would tell me to run. I prefer to meet someone at university or work, not a randomer in the street. He didn't want to be more than friends and I told him what if you wanted to be more than friends..it happens, but he's full of confidence and redirected it back at me insinuating that I might like him more Han a friend! However he was calm and talked in a jokey way..and left on a good note but I really should have walked away and not wasted my time with a stranger. Lesson learnt.

Again not everyone is going to meet someone in uni or at work so meeting a randomer on the street does actually work so i can not knock that because it works for me. I do not go to clubs, bars or anywhere but i would like to start doing that eventually just for a laugh but not to meet anyone as i can meet someone just walking down the street. I would love to meet someone in a normal way but that does not happen for everyone so i don't mind someone asking me out on the street as long as i am attracted to them. Plus it's an interesting story to tell people if you do meet that way.

I just started college to do a music course over a month ago and i do not think i will meet anyone at college so i really do not mind if a guy asks me out on the street as long as he is respectful or good looking.
I used to work in a big Asda warehouse years ago. There were 500 employees but i did not fancy any of the men there and two that did ask me out was asking out all the other girls and sleeping with them then dumping them afterwards. Although they were both good looking i turned them both down and other work places i have never met any one i liked or been asked out there so different things work for different people.
But my point is you can meet weird, creepy men anywhere, just because they ask you out on the street does not mean they are all weirdos or desperate.
It's the man's job to ask the woman out and not all men will succeed in meeting women in uni, work, clubs, etc so they have to try something different. But also sometimes when men ask women out on the street it is because they really liked the look of that woman and thought they might never get the oppurtunity to see them again so they had to take a chance and ask them out there and then or miss a good oppurtunity. And sometimes if they don't they regret it because that woman might have said yes but they will never know if they do not try.

But i hate security guards bothering me all the time and using the job to sleep with women. The security guards at my job centre are the worst one's. I can't stand them because there is no way to try to avoid them so i have to put up with their ******** chat up lines. One time i just asked politely if he would leave me alone then he stopped asking me out but one year later he started again. Then i have to put up with the job advisor's asking me out or giving me their private number's.
Then the sales assistants in my local cash converter's ask me out but even though one of them was really good looking i can tell by looking at him that he is not capable of being faithful so when he kept asking me out hoping i would change my mind and i kept saying no he would say well we do not have to be in a relationship, we can just have fun. I hate men who say that to me.
Then the other one in that shop who is not that great looking but he thinks he is, told me he does not want a relationship just fun because he is still young. I don't know who the hell these men think they are. I am not interested in fun because they really mean sex. Their disgusting.

Where i live there is a hostel close by and the men line up sitting on the wall just so they can whistle or say hello or ask for a date. And some of these idiots are 40 and 50, if they were teenagers i would understand it but those older guys should know better. Sometimes i have to go the long way around to avoid walking past the hostel and even though some are just being polite and just saying hello i'm really not in the mood to want to talk to them.
When they are In groups it's intimidating and sometimes i just want to tell them to **** off or get a life and i have sworn at them a few times but i always feel bad afterwards because they were not being rude to me by just saying hello.

If you read a lot of these threads by men who complain they can not get a girlfriend their only option might be to ask women out on the street. It's totally harmless and they might actually get a girlfriend that way if they had the balls to try it, all women have to do is say yes or no and hope that they are respectful enough to go away when you do say no as you can't stop them from doing this.
Sometimes i feel really bad afterwards if i am rude or ignore them or i regret it afterwards if i did not give someone a chance just because they were not great looking but average because looks are not everything and then i end up single for even longer.
You can meet anyone anywhere or in any weird places. There are no rules on where you meet someone.
You could meet your soulmate walking down the street, it does actually happen, maybe not that often but some people have been lucky enough to meet their future partners that way.

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Original post by Angry Bird

how do they pick up a girl then?

Going out on dates and meeting people in the same sorta environment. Not just anyone on the street.

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Original post by ANM775

girls do this sort of thing too. On average around once every two weeks I will get either wolf whistled, shouted at from cars, or honked at by girls .....and im male.

I did not find it creepy, usually it has been a nice ego boost. Only on two occasions I did not like it, these girls I felt they were being out of order and not even treating me as human ...but like pure meat. It's funny because in the past when I wasn't getting no female attention I always thought girls who said they didn't like being treated like "meat" were making a fuss over nothing ..and it must be quite nice to have someone lusting over them like that. But the two occasions that happened that I was REALLY treated like meat I did not like it, and was infact Angry with the girls. They had no respect for me at all.

Jesus.I sound like a feminist..

Wow that's some dead forward girls lol. I think everyone should just respect each other and not do this kinda stuff on the streets. Its awkward and totally unnecessary.

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Angry Bird

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Original post by Asiangirl_18

Going out on dates and meeting people in the same sorta environment. Not just anyone on the street.

whats wrong with cold approaching though?

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Original post by Angry Bird

whats wrong with cold approaching though?

Its really odd and it puts the girl or guy in an awkward position which isn't too nice tbh

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Original post by Asiangirl_18

Going out on dates and meeting people in the same sorta environment. Not just anyone on the street.

You girls do over react though and men do not target women because they wear make up as i do not wear any. It's not a crime for a man to approach women on the streets, it's not awkward either if you like the guy, it only feels awkward if you don't like the guy and you don't want to hurt their feelings by telling them that you're not attracted to them.
Plus the men that approach you on the street are exactly the same men that approach you in the same sorta environment and they are just anyone on the street
You can still meet weirdo's and creeps in the same environment and clubs, uni, social media, etc

Anyone i really hope all the guys reading this does not put them off trying, just remember to be respectful that's all.
Not all women act unfriendly or aggressive if you approach them but it is good to have different people's opinions so you can learn from it or be more open to it or stop thinking it's creepy and weird as i did not think any of that with the last bloke who asked me out.
I loved the fact he just got straight to the point without the crap chat up lines and i would never have got the oppurtunity to meet him in a club or anywhere else even if i did go clubbing so sometimes when you meet on the street it was just being in the right place at the right time.

Plus sometimes i do feel real pissed off about how i am treated by some men but when you meet a nice man like i did that restores your faith in them again and you realise their not all jerks.
I was surprised no one had a go at me for my different opinion because on another thread i got into an argument over it just because she did not like my opinion and i was responding to someone else then she got angry about it.

No one needs to be nasty to men for doing this just tell them nicely that you are not interested or if they keep persisting i'd rather lie and say i already have a bloke.
It is really hard or nerve wracking for men to pluck up the courage to do it, even though they look confident their not really, they are still scared to be rejected so it's not nice to be nasty to them for being brave enough to try it so i do try to be nice back but you should only be nasty if they are first because sometimes when i ignore them or i am rude back i feel so guilty afterwards because they plucked up the courage to talk to me and it is not easy to just approach a random stranger.

I have had men telling me that they wanted to talk to me before but they were too scared to or that i looked angry so they did not bother. But i was angry because i was pissed off that i was single and have not met anyone, also one man said he wanted to talk to me for a whole year but i just walk away quickly after saying hi back to him. But that was because i did not fancy him but i can't tell him that to hurt his feelings or other times i walked away quickly with men i did fancy because they were stupid enough not to follow up hi with a conversation and i was too shy to say anything else.

And men do try in clubs and other places that are considered normal but it does not always work. plus the street is the same sorta environment really
If men want to stay single or virgins for ever because they were too scared to try it then that is up to them.

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I said sometimes @Foo.mp3

@Judge Jules u make a good point tbh. :smile:

and everyone has their own opinions. Dnt be afraid to voice them just kus of a few idiots on here. I respect what u have said tbh

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