If a really attractive girl tells you she is a virgin, what would your reaction be?

OP

Original post by Anonymous

Feel sorry for your husband.

Original post by Cherry82

What the hell are you talking about? Super confused lol.

Original post by tazarooni89

"its my opinion that i want to sleep with as many guys as possible."

Are you going to be getting married to all of them?

damn that was a typo i meant to say as little as possible

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OP

Original post by tazarooni89

That would make more sense lol

i feel so dumb right now :getmecoat:

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Jmeme10

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id change that mate dont you worry about that :wink:

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Cherry82

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Anyway, OP just wanted to say if you had told me you are a virgin, nothing would really go on in my mind. Speaking from a female's perspective I would literally think, ok. I wouldn't think more or less of you. Unlike some on this thread, I wouldn't have judgments about your sex drive or how you view sex because you being a 'virgin' doesn't really say anything about your sexuality unless you had told/explained to me specifically areas surrounding your sexuality. I must admit, why I had put the quotation marks on virgin is because I really do believe it's subjective. These days virgin can mean anything. Some have anal sex but still consider themselves virgins because they haven't ever done vaginal sex then some do everything else but vaginal sex and say their virgins. So the whole term 'virginity' to me, it's like ok. It's a personal aspect. I know you're not planning on waiting until marriage to have sex but as someone who is, I know how it feels when people don't believe you since with me too guys and girls didn't at first believe me until they got to know me. But I don't think it's because I'm attractive lol I think maybe it's because I love wearing quite revealing clothes and bodycon dresses but this says nothing about my sexual experience. I just love accentuating certain features of my body as I'm all about accepting, loving and being happy of your body.

(edited 7 years ago)

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OP

Original post by Jmeme10

id change that mate dont you worry about that

you can try....

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Original post by Anonymous

i feel so dumb right now

Haha, typos happen :p:

Just a question though: If you plan to sleep with as few people as possible, wouldn't you be more likely to achieve that by waiting until marriage? Because then they've officially expressed their commitment to staying with you forever, and are in theory the only person you'd ever sleep with again, whereas if you slept with them before marriage, it might turn out that the marriage never materialises and you need to find someone else?

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OP

Original post by tazarooni89

Haha, typos happen

Just a question though: If you plan to sleep with as few people as possible, wouldn't you be more likely to achieve that by waiting until marriage? Because then they've officially expressed their commitment to staying with you forever, and are in theory the only person you'd ever sleep with again, whereas if you slept with them before marriage, it might turn out that the marriage never materialises and you need to find someone else?

yes thats kind of what im planning to do. If i have been with a guy in the past sometimes ive found it so hard to stop myself from having sex :s ive stopped being with guys now

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Original post by Anonymous

yes thats kind of what im planning to do. If i have been with a guy in the past sometimes ive found it so hard to stop myself from having sex :s ive stopped being with guys now

Ah okay I see.

I assume that's why Islam discourages those sorts of relationships before marriage, because it's easy for things to gradually become more sexual and then it becomes hard to resist. I suppose you must have had pretty good self control to have resisted so far, but then it must feel a bit like being on a slippery slope?

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Original post by tazarooni89

Ah okay I see.

I assume that's why Islam discourages those sorts of relationships before marriage, because it's easy for things to gradually become more sexual and then it becomes hard to resist. I suppose you must have had pretty good self control to have resisted so far, but then it must feel a bit like being on a slippery slope?

are you muslim? One time i was really close but i know i would have hated myself afterwards. Yes i do have good self control but guys dont and they seem to get fustrated when i stop which makes me glad i didnt in the first place lol

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Cherry82

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Original post by tazarooni89

Haha, typos happen

Just a question though: If you plan to sleep with as few people as possible, wouldn't you be more likely to achieve that by waiting until marriage? Because then they've officially expressed their commitment to staying with you forever, and are in theory the only person you'd ever sleep with again, whereas if you slept with them before marriage, it might turn out that the marriage never materialises and you need to find someone else?

Oh my gosh. You sound exactly like me. Pardon me for sounding forward and thirsty but are you single, straight and male? :wink:

I have some "friends" who are interested lol

(edited 7 years ago)

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Original post by Anonymous

are you muslim?

Yes

One time i was really close but i know i would have hated myself afterwards. Yes i do have good self control but guys dont and they seem to get fustrated when i stop which makes me glad i didnt in the first place lol

Out of interest, were those guys Muslim as well? I get the impression that most guys would probably have less self-control in these matters as it is. But particularly if they're not Muslim, they'd probably not even feel the need to exercise any self-control to begin with, and then get frustrated that you're holding back for (what they consider to be) no good reason.

Did you ever worry that, even if you did resist successfully, in their frustrated state they might try to continue without your co-operation (or consent)?

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OP

Original post by tazarooni89

Yes

Out of interest, were those guys Muslim as well? I get the impression that most guys would probably have less self-control in these matters as it is. But particularly if they're not Muslim, they'd probably not even feel the need to exercise any self-control to begin with, and then get frustrated that you're holding back for (what they consider to be) no good reason.

Did you ever worry that, even if you did resist successfully, in their frustrated state they might try to continue without your co-operation (or consent)?

theyve all been muslim. its really common for asians/muslims to sleep/ONS around where i live.

Yes it has worried me. there was this particular boy who wouldnt take no for an answer but we didnt have sex in the end. I have had boys say to me that i shouldnt see them cuz they wont be able to control themselves around me which made me completely stop being with boys.

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Original post by Cherry82

Oh my gosh. You sound exactly like me. Pardon me for sounding forward and thirsty but are you single, straight and male? I have some "friends" who are interested lol

lol, Yes to all three :p:

But yeah, for me personally I think it makes more sense to wait until marriage. Losing your virginity is an irreversible decision after all, so I'd want to be sure I've maximised the chances of that relationship lasting before I do. There's something nice about both partners only ever having been with each other, in my opinion :smile:

I would find it hot

Original post by Anonymous

yes ive been told my so many guys

i dont have a low sex drive i struggle with my high sex drive

i am muslim, but its not that i want to save it for marriage. its my opinion that i want to sleep with as many guys as possible. I would sleep with a guy if i was in a really serious relationship

don't see how you're "struggling" if you don't want to wait until marriage ... have sex then (?)

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