Is this a fake friend? Why does she do this?

This girl is a really close friend but she always puts me down, e.g she knows I’m insecure about my nose and I want rhinoplasty and she always talks about my nose and says it’s big ‘jokingly’ , and someone called me pretty and she started talking about it and she said ‘apparently you’re pretty’, what was the need for the ‘apparently’ it Just seemed snarky.

And I got my hair done real and I got compliments on how nice it looked from everyone even strangers and she said I looked ‘butters (ugly)’. We’re very good friends and we have banter all the time but it just seems like she’s always taking a dig.

I suspect that she is very insecure, feels that everyone else (including you) are criticizing her behind her back, and needs to 'shore up' her self worth. Actually, this has the opposite effect, as anyone would soon tire of this behaviour. I have dated gals like this. I have also dated gals that 'got off' on beating on me. I'm fairly tall, and decently strong for a bloke, so they couldn't damage me too much, but it was annoying. Perhaps the ultimate 'experiences i didn't need' was taking some gal out for a show, drinks, & dinner at the Kennedy center [local equivalent of Prince Albert Hall], and had her criticizing me in a loud voice during dinner, with the intended audience being the people at two adjoining tables in the 'Terrace Restaurant" in the Kennedy Center. Needless to say, the clientèle you encounter there, are not the kind you find in a local pub.

This may not be the answer you want, but i think you need a new friend. You perhaps might want to tell this 'friend' [in private of course], how what she does makes you feel, and how you can't imagine how anyone else would put up with her behaviour long term. I'll leave that to you - you know her much better than i do. There are plenty of people out there that will treat you nicely, there is NO need to put up with abuse from anyone. I came to the conclusion years ago, that i was much better off with nobody than with an abusive 'friend'. I think that conclusion is still valid. Best of luck!! Cheers.

Sounds like shes jealous of you, wouldnt say shes fake but shes not behaving as a friend should be

This girl is a really close friend but she always puts me down, e.g she knows I’m insecure about my nose and I want rhinoplasty and she always talks about my nose and says it’s big ‘jokingly’ , and someone called me pretty and she started talking about it and she said ‘apparently you’re pretty’, what was the need for the ‘apparently’ it Just seemed snarky.

And I got my hair done real and I got compliments on how nice it looked from everyone even strangers and she said I looked ‘butters (ugly)’. We’re very good friends and we have banter all the time but it just seems like she’s always taking a dig.