A christian dating a non christian (sikh) help

the guy im seeing is amazing, and i really like him and he likes me back, the only thing holding him back is his faith- Christianity.

If his teaching tells him is not allowed, then he'll end things between us, putting his faith first- which i totally respect and understand.

But if anyone can help me understand what the Bibles teachings are for this, and how we could possibly over come this without any of us converting or what we could do would be great help.

Non of us want to convert but we really want it work out

It really depends on which denomination he is and how strict he is! There are Bible verses about not "yolking" (or some word like that) with non-believers but how this is interpreted and enacted varies from denomination to denomination.

For example, if he is Roman Catholic, you two could both marry and in a church - you would just have to formally agree to your children being brought up Roman Catholic. (Of course there is no way of enforcing this, so people can - and do - just lie when it comes to this bit.) :jebus:

It really depends. Some Christians have absolutely no problem with inter-religious marriage, others find it to be a problem. The Bible tends to be quite strict when it comes to other religions in general, but not all Christians follow the Bible word for word. In your case, it’s probably best that you ask him about it. Don’t be afraid to ask him the difficult questions; not all Christians will leave someone that they can’t convert, but some will. It’s good to get these concerns out of the way. I’d hazard a guess that if he knows you’re Sikh he probably doesn’t care, so it’s probably going to be good for your relationship to absolve your worries in each other now.

i see, and understand too
i dont know how denomination, he does seem quite strict in all fairness and im completely okay with that, but we both really like eachother, ill find out



i think it is an issue for his as he's outright said that me being not christian an issue for him.
We've been debating about this for a few days and hes holding back from me. He said he needs time to think about it and speak to a few people at church and come to a conclusion but i fear of him leaving me

Christians like that really piss me off, ngl. He ought to have known it would be an issue for him and not dated you in the first place

he knew this from the start

the guy im seeing is amazing, and i really like him and he likes me back, the only thing holding him back is his faith- Christianity.

If his teaching tells him is not allowed, then he'll end things between us, putting his faith first- which i totally respect and understand.

But if anyone can help me understand what the Bibles teachings are for this, and how we could possibly over come this without any of us converting or what we could do would be great help.

Non of us want to convert but we really want it work out

if anyone can help me understand what the Bibles teachings are for this, and how we could possibly over come this without any of us converting or what we could do would be great help.

This is so cute...

Ruth was one of the first converts into Israel, and she did it for marriage... Romantic, right? See, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ruth+1&version=kjv; and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_(biblical_figure) Ruth ends up having one the richest mother and daughter-in-law relationships in the Bible... She grows attached to Naomi and says one of the sweetest lines in the Bible: "for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried" (Ruth 1:16-17). Sweet, right? And so in biblical history, she's noted as one of the outsiders who wasn't meant to be saved, but was.

It sounds like your man doesn't know what he's doing... maybe a bit immature... maybe indoctrinated and cultish... or maybe shy and introverted... only you will know...

In the Bible, marriage is for man and woman, simple as that. God made Adam and he gave him Eve and said to him "it's not good for man to be alone". A woman was made to be man's helper.

In terms of marriage, being a consenting adult qualifies enough, and having your dad's blessing is all he needs to propose.

Life, however, will much richer and easier if you (both) learn about God and his plan for your life. His greatest commandment is to "Love the Lord the God with all thy heart soul mind and strength and love your neighbour as your self". (Luke 10:27). That is to LOVE HIM with everything, not merely 'convert', or 'go to church', which is often quite vain and meaningless at the end of the day. https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Bible-Verses-About-Marriage/

It really depends on which denomination he is and how strict he is! There are Bible verses about not "yolking" (or some word like that) with non-believers but how this is interpreted and enacted varies from denomination to denomination.

If his teaching tells him is not allowed, then he'll end things between us, putting his faith first- which i totally respect and understand.

LGT is correct in that regard.

He refers to 2 Corinthians 6 which contrasts believers and unbelievers, as light and darkness. Paul writes, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers... " https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2+Corinthians+6%3A14-17&version=KJV This would be quite a serious verse since "God is light and in him is no darkness at all" https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+John+1%3A5&version=KJV

The verse is also opposed to idol worship, contrasting it to the Judeo-Christian believer who's body is the temple of the Lord. And the yoke metaphor is a farming analogy to illustrate that when two buffalos / cows are hooked up together with equipment that's the right shape and size the animals can farm more efficiently, without chafing, without injury. Hence Christ said, "MY YOKE is easy and my burden is light" in reference to keeping his commandments / the Torah / Biblical law. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+11%3A28-30&version=KJV

Relationship have ups and downs. -- So, the yoke analogy is quite important. It's also quite interesting how the yoke works, because a yoke that fits properly allows them to carry MUCH HEAVIER loads, and plow straight lines for longer periods; and the animals will live longer. Similar to a 60L hiking backpack with waist straps and chest straps vs a side carry duffle bag which is not good for backs.

@CleverSquirrel I think your relationship is permissible, but it may not be beneficial (unless you're both believers, heading in the same direction, towards Christ, under the same law, the same system, same God).

Idolatry in the Bible, is also broader than literal figurine idols, or images, it refers to love that is misplaced (i.e. the antithesis of 'Loving the Lord thy God' is to hate him). The term idolatry is used figuratively relating also to loving things and people, more than God himself. For example, "He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." (Matthew 10:37) https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+10%3A37-38&version=KJV

On the positive side, in relation to Sihkism, it seems Sihkism has changed in the last 100 years, having prohibited idol worship since early 20th century. Remarkably this satisfies the literal prohibition against idolatry in Corinthians! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Idolatry_in_Sikhism. However, it depends on the OP beliefs, whether or not she practices this. Because out of the Nirankari, Sanatan, and Khalsa, only Nirankari and Khalsa Sikhs have abolished idolatry... the Sanatans refused throw out their idols...

The OP headline also does state that she identifies as a "Sikh" and is reluctant to convert. "without any of us converting ... Non of us want to convert...", so maybe that's her situation...

But it seems quite clear that the OP is keen to convert, and she's waiting for a proposal: ""If his teaching tells him is not allowed, then he'll end things between us, putting his faith first- which i totally respect and understand."

Again, I refer to Ruth as the example to follow. If the OP commits herself positively towards God, God will path the way for her future. And naturally she won't be a hindrance on her husband. If however, she is reluctant, resistant, and adversarial, the relationship will be stressed. The consequence for the husband may result in a forfeited / ruined faith, and perhaps hell. And he would be the one taking a risk for her. Hence Christ taught about "Seeds going into fertile soil and others falling cracks and dying". And this is what Paul is implying to in Corinthians 6. You ideally want a partner who

Another reason why Ruth's case is so important, is that even tough she was an outsider, God must have loved her, and she must have been a very lovable and dedicated Israelite convert, because God allowed her to become and ANCESTOR OF JESUS. How incredible! Her name is honoured and immortalised in Scripture, and as a mother of the Messiah! Extraordinary!

See Matthew 1:5, "and Booz begat Obed of Ruth" https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+1&version=KJV. -- "She is one of five women mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus found in the Gospel of Matthew, alongside Tamar, Rahab, the "wife of Uriah" (Bathsheba), and Mary.[2]"

You sound like a Ruth to me!

God bless you both.

... I'm being pulled in by the love of Christ and I've accepted him and god's love too... So now I do identify as a Christian and the church I go to has accepted me into the family too .... The reckless love of God is well and truly over whelming!! ... I'm still learning and building a relationship with God