The OP lives in the Netherlands. Looking at the Wiki page for age of consent, for the Netherlands it says:
Art 245: "A person who, out of wedlock, with a person who has reached the age of twelve but has not reached sixteen, performs indecent acts comprising or including sexual penetration of the body is liable to a term of imprisonment of not more than eight years or a fine of the fifth category."
Art 247: "A person who, with a person whom he knows to be unconscious or physically unable to resist or to be suffering from such a degree of mental defect or mental disease that he is incapable or not sufficiently capable of exercising or expressing his will in the matter or of offering resistance, performs indecent acts, or who, with a person who has not yet reached the age of sixteen (16) years, out of wedlock, performs indecent acts, or by whom the latter is enticed into performing, or submitting to such acts, out of wedlock, with a third party, is liable to a term of imprisonment of not more than six years or a fine of the fourth category."
According to my understanding of this law. you can marry a 12 year old in the Netherlands and legally have sex with her.
If this man made it clear that sex would only be within marriage at the age of 14, or no sex until the OP was 16 - and if he has abided by that policy with all other young women in the Netherlands - then legally he is not liable for conviction as a paedophile in that country.
And if that's the case, everyone calling him a paedophile in this thread would appear to be just name calling based on their own personal perception of what the law should be in the Netherlands. This could be name calling verging on libel - as this man may have acted completely within the law at all times.
Different countries around the world have different cultures and different laws.