If your family threatened to cut you off for having a relationship/moving in with and starting a life with someone you really love, but who is a different religion/culture to what they want, would you let them go to save your family or find a way to live without your family?
It is a relationship where we want to marry each other eventually, but then would not be able to visit my cousins, aunts, grandma because they would all disagree. i am not the same as these 'conservative' family members because i grew up abroad and am mixed race, having a mother from another culture/religion, but they accepted her after many years. But if a GIRL marries outside it is a disgrace. But it's very hypocritical of my dad as he married away, I am 'different' anyway by birth and upbringing, and never felt i could live the same way as them. Family is so important I have made many sacrifices but I have a cultural identity crisis and very in love with this man who treats me incredibly well and is willing to prove himself to my difficult family. But they won't give him a chance.
I have been hiding him from my family so far but i'm about to graduate and and need to make decisions. Dad lost his job, mid-life crisis, is absent figure but controlling personality. My way or the highway kind of thing. My boyfriend knows about my depression/personal struggles and we can build a life where i can be secure and comfortable to start building my future. My family is broken and if i sacrifice my relationship for them i have to go back to the mess. Feel like i would rather kill myself. Don't want to hurt family but have always been suicidal living under their suffocating rules.
Any thoughts?