Bad boyfriend?

A few weeks back my parents separated, it was out of the blue and was obviously quite a shock. Immediately afterwards I was quite calm and phoned my boyfriend of almost two years to let him know (he is several hours away at university). I was reasonably calm, in hindsight it ws probably because I was in shock. But my boyfriend took this as me being completely okay and after around 20 minutes on the phone, he left to go on a night out. Is my annoyance justified?

Wtf. He should’ve comforted you when you’re definitely not okay. It would’ve been reasonable if he texted you if he had existing plans that’s why he left to go on a night out. But if he didn’t, yes your annoyance is justified but he should’ve spared a bit of time to comfort you at least. Did it happen tonight?

A few weeks back my parents separated, it was out of the blue and was obviously quite a shock. Immediately afterwards I was quite calm and phoned my boyfriend of almost two years to let him know (he is several hours away at university). I was reasonably calm, in hindsight it ws probably because I was in shock. But my boyfriend took this as me being completely okay and after around 20 minutes on the phone, he left to go on a night out. Is my annoyance justified?

If you were calm, maybe he felt you were going to be ok for the moment, then went on his (maybe) pre-arranged night out.

The real question is, has he phoned you since, and has he listened and shown some empathy?

yeah we've spoken since and I told him how I felt about him going out and he was sorry which was good. I think there was really just a miscommunication which has happened a few times now since hes moved away to university.

Oh I am very, very pleased to hear this. The important thing now is to process what has happened with your parents. Distance does not make things easy, but if it is any comfort, I maintained several long distance relationships whilst I was at uni, one when I was even living in a different country!

Just be aware that your parents' separating is not your fault. It happens a lot unfortunately. The pain is pretty raw now and you are shocked, but time will help you get accustomed to it.

my parents have sorted everything out and have got back together along with now going to regular counselling. I'm the oldest of six girls so I have I found it quite hard having to help out at home as well as gong to school. Thanks for your help <3 x

No, it happened a while back. Luckily my parents have settled their differences and are back together, but him doing this has kind of stuck in my mind. He did call me the next morning and apologise saying he "hadn't really thought about how serious it was" and that he was sorry. What annoyed me most was the week immediately after this he kept phoning me complaining about menial things, obviously, I want to be there for him but with what I was going through I really don't think I should have had to listen to him complaining.