I'm a 22 year old female and have attracted the attention of a 31 year old (yes you read that right) male online. I have tried everything I can think of to get rid of him, but nothing works. I refuse to block him cos that is just nasty
We first started talking in 2019 and seemed to get on well, but since then I've realised I have moved past him, I don't need him anymore. When I first met him online i was isolated thanks to crippling anxiety. My family couldn't reach me, I wasn't in a good place I was a mess. I loved hearing from him but since then I've moved on in life. Before coronavirus I had to think up every excuse under the sun to avoid meeting him, he won't take no for a answer
I'm getting job interviews, countless matches on dating sites, potential new boyfriends. I'm trying to make something of myself and finally discovering who I am. Slowly but surely I'm maturing. My life has changed. He is in exactly the same place he was when he first messaged me. I viewed him as nothing more than a cyber friend, but he seems to fancy me rotten. He always used to say "hiya baby love you" "night baby love you" wtf?! And why would he call me baby he doesn't even know me we've never met! He expects me to talk to him everyday
when a major life event happened late 2020 I couldn't bring myself to come online and that's when it suddenly hit me, I'm not interested in talking anymore, I don't want this and he is just a annoyance to me, a creepy older bloke who seems to think I'm his girlfriend. First I told him "I'm not ready to talk yet" but he continued bombarding me constantly disrespecting my boundaries even though I specifically told him "I'll get back to you when I'm ready" I've told him I'm dating now (which is true and I thought a massive hint I don't want him) but he just won't stop. Ignoring him for weeks on end doesn't work, telling him I'm dating doesn't work. He has even manipulated me into responding by telling me things like "I'm not doing too good" "I feel poorly" "I think I have the virus" etc. These are all lies and emotional blackmail. When I do respond he shuts up about it. He will literally stop at nothing to make me talk to him and if I disappear he starts ranting and raving. Tonight after not talking for weeks I said that I get bored by back and forth messaging. His reply? "We can make it more exciting" my reply was "in what way?" And he said " having cybersex for instance"
It's like banging my head against a brick wall. He just won't go. I despair and don't know how to make it clear i don't want to talk anymore without blocking him. What's your opinion on this situation and what should I do? Thanks