Biggest decision of my life

DO NOT CONVERT

Everyone is equal in God's eyes, all God asks for us is that we are compassionate towards each other, speak the truth, help people in need, act modestly.

Just follow your religion and let her follow hers.

I'm 20. I'm a sikh. The girl i like/love is a muslim. Only solution for a future is to convert. But how do i go about telling this to my parents and family, for those of you who dont know the consequences can and will be absolutely huge! I have no idea how my parents and family would react but what if they kick me out the house and/or break my legs?!

For those of you who are doubting me, i like this girl so much that i am willing to convert. But if my parents dont agree to converting or even marriage (if it does come to that) then what should i do? how would the girls parents react?

Basically it is like this, once i have mentioned this situation there is no going back and thats a fact. for example, if i say i want to convert and mention the girl then things would never be the same for me between me and my parents. Also the girl says that she doesnt want me to convert just because of her.

if i was to convert eventually, what do i say? would her parents be okay with it? my parents would go crazy but do you think i should go ahead with it even if they so no? This is so hard and confusing for me, it is the biggest decision of my life.... as it could make or break my life.

I see. In that case, I would advise you to do the only logical/sensible thing you really can - sit down with your parents and just lay all the facts out. It sounds like you're prepared for the backlash that will probably result from that, but if they love you, they should (emphasis on *should*) see sense and accept that this is what you need to do if your relationship with her is impossible without conversion.

Just as a thought, would it be possible for you to convert, but still observe all the Sikh customs of your family? It's sort of a best-of-both-worlds solution - ie you become a Muslim but are a Sikh when you need to be.

when the time comes and i do eventually tell my family, and i am positive there will be huge consequences, what am i supposed to do if they dont want to know because that will mean i dont really have a chance with her either... Also do you think i should convert and *try* to pursue a future with her even if my parents say no?

Of course i could still observe the sikh customs, it would be the best of both worlds. It might seem strange to some, but im not a hugely religious guy, so that could work.

I'm 20. I'm a sikh. The girl i like/love is a muslim. Only solution for a future is to convert. But how do i go about telling this to my parents and family, for those of you who dont know the consequences can and will be absolutely huge! I have no idea how my parents and family would react but what if they kick me out the house and/or break my legs?!

For those of you who are doubting me, i like this girl so much that i am willing to convert. But if my parents dont agree to converting or even marriage (if it does come to that) then what should i do? how would the girls parents react?

Basically it is like this, once i have mentioned this situation there is no going back and thats a fact. for example, if i say i want to convert and mention the girl then things would never be the same for me between me and my parents. Also the girl says that she doesnt want me to convert just because of her.

if i was to convert eventually, what do i say? would her parents be okay with it? my parents would go crazy but do you think i should go ahead with it even if they so no? This is so hard and confusing for me, it is the biggest decision of my life.... as it could make or break my life.

Try asking her is she wants to convert, lets see if she loves you in the way you do.

coming from the same background and being sikh i understand how you feel about this whole thing..
but you really need to start putting things in to perspective, you're sacrificing the values that your parents have taught you and brought you up with, i also think that if your parents are quiet religious and strict sikhi then there will be an issue and that is the truth of it.

converting for this girl, i don't think her parents would have an issue about it, because your changing your faith and religion on the basis of being able to marry her, which i would assume is what they would have wanted in the first place..

but you're 20! you really got to be sure that this is what you want for the rest of your life..sure people say, you're in love with the girl and therefore other circumstances shouldn't matter, but these two religions are so different, and you need to think about your life in the long run with her.. my dad has always said i can marry whoever i want as long as they're Punjabi and understand our culture, but seen as your the boy of the family your parents may consider otherwise, but really.. do you think that'll be the case? there really is no going back after this...

massive goodluck to your decision and outcome!

I would also love to ask about a previous point you said of a "legitimate marriage" explain please because well Marriage is a state thing or are you doing it to make some old fart happy or to make a "god" happy? it makes no sense

a muslim girl cannot marry a non muslim. so in order for that to happen i would have to convert.

Ok well Why cant a Muslim Girl marry a non muslim?

It's haram? i dont know im not a muslim!! haha

is your family really religious and strict? you see my family are to a certain extent, but i dont understand why me converting would be a massive problem. i understand im going against what i was brought up with, but some of my far distant family such as an aunty married a white guy. my dad is a hindu and my mum is a sikh, theyre both different religions, of course they didnt have to convert or anything, but why cant i be with who i want to be with, who will make me happy. Converting is a huge decision, but its not a bad thing.

Theres just so many thoughts going through my head. for example what if i introduce the girl to my parents, and my parents say things to her, discouraging her to continue, or go crazy. she would obviously not want to go ahead as my own parents wouldnt want her. so its not even just the issue of converting, thats the big first step, the next steps are introduction, fights, disagreement.