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Phone sex with another guy...is it cheating?

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Phone sex with another third party is dishonesty and cheating, particularly if you're in a relationship which is an open relationship and your bf/gf doesn't know. Those of you referring to married men, well their wives/husbands must know and there may be reasons behind it and their fine with it I.e. Their sex lives are lacking, either the husband or wife has sexual or health problems etc. The difference here is that the OP has intention of 'pleasuring' another man by having phone sex with him. She's not going it with her bf which would be the right thing if she wanted phone sex. Phone sex and nude pictures to another guy - This is just wrong! As for those of you saying do it to porn, some people who are in relationships like abit of connection with their bf/gf and to do it together involves both, not just porn where either the bf/gf gets something out of it in their own individual time. Also, deary me...phone sex is not putting the phone up upself! Lol.
Pics of this topless photo now.
Reply 62
I've lost faith in humanity
Yup, cheating.
Women don't care that their husbands ring sex lines because it's a service just like porn or prostitution. However, it's just a way for the male to quickly jack off. At least he's not bringing home sexual diseases or actually sleeping with someone else.
Reply 65
Yes, you were cheating, and in a rather pathetic way as well... although, I'd be more angry if the other person was doing it with someone they were good friends with, or that I knew :s-smilie:
The photo alone deserves a dumping.

Although phone sex is not physical it is still an intimate thought process, I would feel guilty for having imaginary sex with another bloke.

Shame on you!
Reply 67
It's cheating and I'd dump you for it.
SiaSiaSia
I wouldn't class it as cheating.

But then again, my relationship views always seem to conflict with the majority of TSR :sad:

But at the same time, I've been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years so WHATEVZ. The majority of TSR who usually comment on these things, bear in mind, have:
1) had one boyfriend/girlfriend and think they know everything
2) are "waiting" (are ugly)
3) are religious (fair enough)
4) are strongly "OHMYGODI'DNEVERCHEATINANYFORMILOVEMYBOYFRIENDOMG"


I wouldn't even consider sexting as cheating. Who cares if your boyfriend is thinking of some other girl when on the phone to her? If he really wanted her he'd be screwing her in real life, not over a ******* phone. And what do you think they're doing when they're watching porn?! (and vice versa with girlfriend) It's just harmless fun. Unless it goes into fullblownmegaorgasmicREALLIFEsex then I really don't see people's problem with it.

Actually, there is a difference. Porn - You don't know the person. Here, the OP and the other guy know each other and one thing can lead to another. Good phone sex is just like having sex but not body to body physical contact. Both people still 'get off' on it. In that case, she's pleasuring him and he's pleasuring her. Both people are having sex with one another in their minds, not body to body. Phone sex lines are different. They are a service and the customer does not know the supplier (sex worker). To the sex worker, it means nothing but a way of earning an income. To this guy, he's asked the OP to pleasure him...and she wants to not as a way of offering a service for income, but she has an emotional connection/feelings with/for him leading her to make the decision of doing it.
Reply 69
How isn't it cheating.
Cheating.. duh... :s-smilie:

you're involving another person in your relationship and having sex with them....

where is this not obviously cheating?
If your boyfriend is likely to dump you, **** the other guy and give him something actually worthwhile to dump you for.
Bluelight
I think if you have phone sex you're laughable, thats what I think. If you're going to cheat at least do it properly , not only are you being deceitful to your bf but you sound really lame.


So true. I'd be careful throwing away what you've got with your boyfriend. It sounds like the other guy doesn't even care about you and just wants to get his kicks out of you.
Reply 73
Pink Liquid
Good phone sex is just like having sex but not body to body physical contact.


What have you been shagging, a jacket potato?
Hope your boyfriend finds out soon.
Reply 75
Yes
Anonymous
Hii all,

I know I'm going to get slated for even thinking about another guy but I would really like some opinions.

Basically I have a boyfriend of two years, but have got really really close to a guy at uni. This guy just asked me for phone sex and I said ring me in haf an hour when everyone is out and I will. He also has a topless pic of me on his phone that I sent :frown: I regret sending the pic I know I'm a horrible person. But I would just like to know, do you guys consider phne sex with someone other than your partner cheating?


Can't speak for everyone else but as far as I'm concerned you're cheating and would probably get the boot, what with the topless pic and all.

Also since you're basically getting close with some other random dude at uni I'd probably want to have a conversation about our **** which would end with me dumping you regardless.


My advise is break up with your boyfriend, tell him why (you like someone else).
TC is so predictable. You're gonna feel guilty, tell your boyfriend only to find that the phone sex guy is your boyfriend and that the person you thought was your boyfriend is in fact the person you've been cheatinb with. That means, because snogging a non - boyfriend is cheating, you have been cheating using a clever ploy to decieve us all. I must admit you had me going for a second but you made one grave error. You posted as anonymous and everyone knows anonymous isnt real. Thet have no souls!

Case closed! * Walks off into sunset*
Reply 78
I'd rather you went home with a random guy in a club than did something like that. The feeling for your boyfriend, if he finds out, is that you are planning this stuff behind his back with this guy and are enjoying the duplicity on a long-term basis.

I'm not really slating you, though, it would be a turn-on for me as well.
I would be devestated if I found out my boyfriend was doing that! You may not be physically doing anything with this guy but if you're in a relationship, surely your partner should be the only one you talk dirty to and who sees you topless.

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