If we had the guy coming on here instead of her, with all you sheep supporting him and saying she was being over-sensitive, then I'd be pretty suspicious of
his story as well.
If you only recognise two possible states - complete belief in what she says, or "not believing any of what she's saying", that that won't make any sense to you, unfortunately, and I suppose you'll just have to just make up some other answer for me that you can process.
I've already agreed that there's two sides to the story, and I'd like to hear the other one too actually, but that still shouldn't mean that you should just assume that she's being silly and over-emotional for no good reason.It sure looks like you are. This whole forum section is such a miserable place, everyone being encouraged to blame other people for their shortcomings and emotional difficulties. It's not something I believe in at all. If she got upset, that's a problem with
her mind, not the noises that came out of his mouth. Doesn't it strike you as a really undesirable situation to be so manipulable by mere words? That he can speak a few sounds and invoke this devastating feeling in her. It's pathetic, and it's one thing I'm glad I never experience.
I take responsibility for how I feel - it's never anyone else's fault but my own.
Jesus Christ. I barely ever post in this subforum, and once I do I come to realise why I stopped doing so in the first place. You can't seem to say anything without other people jumping on you causing arguments.
So if your girlfriend laughed at your prowess in bed, or told you outright that you didn't satisfy her at all and were boring in bed, you wouldn't mind? Or if she insulted your tastes or possessions or parents? After all, it's just words, isn't it. Yeah right.It's all relative, though. Hell, I'll just copy from my last post:
He was clearly not tactful enough for her particular emotional disposition, and she was clearly too emotionally vulnerable for his particular level of tact.Does that make sense? What he said and his choice of phrasing, and her emotional state/ability to deal with criticism, were poorly matched in this case. That's all there is to it. If she wasn't such a baby, she wouldn't have got upset, and if he wasn't so frank about it then she wouldn't have got upset either.