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    What is your opinion on no children at a wedding? Would you want children at your wedding? Would you be offended if you were invited to a wedding and weren't allowed to bring you child/children?

    Personally, I don't want any kids at my future wedding. The guests will constantly have to watch them, they may scream/cry, people may need to leave early, its extra money needed on the reception (more heads to feed, or entertainment for the kids). However, i know I'm going to have to invite children as my partners brother and sister both have kids (and would probably be very offended if we said not to bring them). Lastly, and i know this sounds selfish, but i want to be able to enjoy myself and not have to take kids into consideration when planning a theme or choosing a venue. (Just to clarify, I'm not getting married, its just an issue i'v come across and am curious about. I'm sure I'd probably change my mind if i had kids!)

    Why would this have got negative ratings when im purely asking for opinion? lol. crazy people
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    It is your wedding therefore should be your choice however... Banning children would mean that parents would have to find someone to look after children or fork out for a babysitter.

    Everyone has there own opinion I guess but I am fine children at weddings, I would allow children to my wedding, and I would be a little disappointed if my own children could not come to the wedding of a person who is close to them. If it was someone that the children did not know, I would not care at all.
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    No I wouldn't - I hate being at a wedding and overhearing a baby cry or a Mum telling a kid off.

    Actually I hate hearing this anywhere so definitely not at my wedding!


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    (Original post by Lemonzaz)
    What is your opinion on no children at a wedding? Would you want children at your wedding? Would you be offended if you were invited to a wedding and weren't allowed to bring you child/children?

    Personally, I don't want any kids at my future wedding. The guests will constantly have to watch them, they may scream/cry, people may need to leave early, its extra money needed on the reception (more heads to feed, or entertainment for the kids). However, i know I'm going to have to invite children as my partners brother and sister both have kids (and would probably be very offended if we said not to bring them). Lastly, and i know this sounds selfish, but i want to be able to enjoy myself and not have to take kids into consideration when planning a theme or choosing a venue. (Just to clarify, I'm not getting married, its just an issue i'v come across and am curious about. I'm sure I'd probably change my mind if i had kids!)

    Why would this have got negative ratings when im purely asking for opinion? lol. crazy people
    I'm absolutely with you on this
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    (Original post by British199)
    It is your wedding therefore should be your choice however... Banning children would mean that parents would have to find someone to look after children or fork out for a babysitter.

    Everyone has there own opinion I guess but I am fine children at weddings, I would allow children to my wedding, and I would be a little disappointed if my own children could not come to the wedding of a person who is close to them. If it was someone that the children did not know, I would not care at all.
    Thats a good point about whether the child is close to the couple getting married. I would imagine they may feel upset at being left out - didn't think about that.

    (Original post by arina162)
    I'm absolutely with you on this
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    It depends on the age of the child really. You would ask people not to bring newborns... and it depends on the activity. Most parents understand it's them that's being invited, not their kids. Though it'd be pretty mean to deny your neices/nephews.
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    I wouldn't mind 16+ year olds because by then they're fairly well behaved and won't throw a tantrum. But I would hate to have little runts running around on my special day so it's not happening!
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    I'd want the kids who are in my close family and my partner's close family to be there. I view a wedding as the start of a marriage or family life, so it only makes sense to celebrate with everyone in the family. To each their own, of course, but no matter what, something will go wrong at the wedding. It doesn't make sense to me not to invite kids to have a "perfect" day, since that won't happen.

    You also don't need to have activities for the kids. If parents think their children will not behave, they will find a sitter and leave them at home.
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    Personally I think its acceptable to ban under 5's- they get bored easily and don't know when to keep quiet. Age 5+ I think its ok because they should know how to behave (although obviously not all have adequate parenting to know how to).
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    I had children at my wedding. They were my cousins and first-cousins once removed. I also had one of my husband's cousins once removed there. They were aged from 3-9 years. Nothing bad happened, it just meant everyone had to leave earlier. I was getting tired by 6pm anyway .
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    I got to be a bridesmaid when I was 5 and I loved it. When I went to weddings/christenings when I was younger there were always other children there, we just sat under the table and played our own little games. I personally loved it, and if my family/closest friends had children I'd definitely want them to be involved. I didn't go to a massive number of weddings, it was mostly christenings we ended up at, so of course there were children at those. Plus I love babies and what if one of my best friends had recently had a child? I wouldn't want them to be excluded. Same if they were pregnant, I wouldn't care about them ruining the wedding photos or whatever, they're my friend and I think it would be selfish for me to assume I'm the only one with a life going on at any one time. Also, I'm quite good with kids from the age of about 2-8 so that wouldn't bother me either. I want to be a mum more than I want to get married so if I did ever get married I would definitely let my friends/family bring their children. Don't think I'd want a big wedding though, my friend and I were discussing this and we agreed we'd rather spend more money on the honeymoon.
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    Are you planning on having a post-ceremony orgy or something?
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    Well, I am currently engaged and have absolutely no problem with having children at my wedding.
    I want everyone I love to be there and if they have children then so be it. I'll probably love the children as well!

    Who cars if they scream or cry, the mother will just take them out and you can laugh it off.
    It doesn't have to be perfect, I want everyone to feel comfortable and have fun, not to sit in silence and cry.
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    Above a certain age I wouldn't mind but only if the child wanted, I always hated being dragged to my mums friends weddings and knowing no one and just sitting their bored.
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    I'm undecided. You make really good points and I'm not keen on kids for the noise and tantrums etc but I wouldn't want to offend people or mean that they had to find somewhere to put their kids that night.
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    I got married a few months ago and my wife's 5 year old sister was there. We didn't put on entertainment for her or build the restaurant menu with her in mind or any of the other "planning problems" you've come up with. We did what WE wanted and had absolutely no problems with a 5 year old being there. She did a lot of dancing, ate some food and fell asleep. Actually, my wife and I headed out before her and her dad (we had important things to do :sexface:).
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    (Original post by USRaphael)
    I got married a few months ago and my wife's 5 year old sister was there. We didn't put on entertainment for her or build the restaurant menu with her in mind or any of the other "planning problems" you've come up with. We did what WE wanted and had absolutely no problems with a 5 year old being there. She did a lot of dancing, ate some food and fell asleep. Actually, my wife and I headed out before her and her dad (we had important things to do :sexface:).
    Yes, we know, you had sex. :rolleyes:

    OP, if I'm honest it is your wedding, so it is your call. But if would be very difficult for people close to you who are parents. What are they meant to do?
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    I'm not fond of children so, selfish as it may be, I wouldn't want them at my wedding. Anyone 14+ would be fine, I just hate the idea of small children running around, screaming. Surely it's up to the people who are having the wedding as to whether to have children there? Yes, it'll probably be seen as selfish but, at the end of the day, it's THEIR day.

    My dad got married in the summer and they decided not to have children there. I loved it, not having to be careful around them or spend the night entertaining them. It is a delicate issue as everyone knows someone who has kids, but like I said earlier, it's the bride and groom's day.
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    Usually at a wedding, there's either a child room, or children are there for the buffet/dinner and then are usually escorted home by a grandparent/babysitter so the parents can enjoy an evening partying.
    Well, that's how it's been at all the weddings I've been to.

    And if you don't have any children you can't have a cute little flower girl. D:
    Do you not have any young family? It would be a bit unfair to exclude them from your wedding if they love you and you love them.
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    Children suck, so no.
 
 
 
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