Im 23 and never had a girlfriend before- how do I get one?

Have you ever tried approaching a girl?

Maybe self esteem issues you probably expect them to go to you. Am i right?

i suppose so yes

like i said though, its like im invisible to them, they dont find me attractive

never


but upon saying this, they never notice me anyway, its not like they look at me/smile at me or show any signs that they find me attractive


the girls in school never liked me either

another things I should add is this

I dont feel that I have anything to offer a girl. Im not good looking also I dont have money or a good job, Ive no car and still live at home.

Not looking good is it?

another things I should add is this

I dont feel that I have anything to offer a girl. Im not good looking also I dont have money or a good job, Ive no car and still live at home.

Not looking good is it?

I think with girls you just need to be confident. If you have the mentality that the girl isn't going to like you, she'll probably be able to sense it. You should try approach a girl that you find attractive or that you think you might have loads in common with. Strike up a conversation, act confident and even if you get rejected, just accept the rejection and move on.

I don't always look at guys when I'm interested in them, I sort of just wait for them to notice me and start talking to me because I'm pretty shy so maybe the girls are just shy?

I've never been a guy and I've never approached a guy so I wouldn't know the best way to go about it but speaking from the other side, being approached, the guys are usually confident, sure of themselves and just friendly. You'll be surprised how far just being friendly will get you. Don't get me wrong, there are girls that might be a bit stuck up and might be rude but there are genuinely nice girls out there that might give you a chance

if you want attention:

Get a trendy hair cut (1)

Work Out (2)

Wear popular clothes (3)

If you want to know about the 'game' - Read Neil Strauss - The Game.

BUT a girlfriend, isn't so easy to come by.

im starting to lose my hair and im only 23

I have so many things which stand between me and getting a girlfriend

Also, because most guys are better looking than me, if I had a gf I'd always be insecure and scared of her cheating/running off on me

I find the whole idea of approaching a girl very scary, you could say that im actually scared of girls!

I mean, it would be different if some of them liked me, but because none fancy me, i just cant imagine them liking me, wanting to go out with me because im unnattractive

girls just dont give me the time of day, never have done, hence why im so scared

I imagine a girl would be rude/laugh/tell me to get lost or f-off if I asked her out....

I think the fact that no girl has ever found me attractive and the girls at school hated me has had an effect on me in adult life,

i mean they treat me like something they've scraped from the sole of their shoe

Some girls will be quite rude, but not all girls. Most mature girls, if they aren't interested will tell you politely.
Like I said before, It's all about the way you present yourself. I can sense when a guy isn't confident in himself before he even speaks. Once you accept yourself, learn how to be confident, girls will be able to read you and will be more attracted to you because of it.
With girls, you can say looks are pretty important because guys can be quite shallow (girls can be too, don't get me wrong but it's more of an issue if your bad looking to guys than it is to girls) I've met guys that look like buffalos but because they ignored the fact they looked like death itself, girls were just attracted to them. They'd be getting girls like it's nothing. If those same guys had just let the bad comments (which they did get) get to them I'm sure they wouldn't have got any girls.
Next time, you notice a friendly-looking girl somewhere, just go upto her and start talking. It's riskier to approach the girls that look stuck up so just find a girl that looks like she's friendly.