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Watching porn while my girlfriend's away :(
Basically my girlfriend has gone to visit her family for the rest of the summer, I really miss her and it sounds pathetic that I can't hold it in for 6 weeks but I can't so I'm turning to porn and fitspo
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
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Original post by Riku
Basically my girlfriend has gone to visit her family for the rest of the summer, I really miss her and it sounds pathetic that I can't hold it in for 6 weeks but I can't so I'm turning to porn and fitspo
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
I really wouldn't worry about it, it is perfectly normal for a guy in a relationship to watch porn from my experience, especially in a scenario like yours.
FFS it's just ****ing porn. 90% of 12-year old boys whose parents aren't home are watching it at the moment.
But seriously no, guys watch porn all the time regardless of GF or not. Some even watch it with their partners. I understand where you're coming from but that fact you're even questioning it suggests theres nothing to worry about.
my boyfriend watches porn when we aren't together, so do i. we tell each other about it, and then send each other dirty photos of us enjoying it 
it's so not a huge deal and too many people are uptight about it.
it's so not a huge deal and too many people are uptight about it.
Original post by Riku
Basically my girlfriend has gone to visit her family for the rest of the summer, I really miss her and it sounds pathetic that I can't hold it in for 6 weeks but I can't so I'm turning to porn and fitspo
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
It doesn't make you a bad person. However, it shows that self-gratification is very important to you.
Personally, I believe viewing/masturbating to porn is a type of cheating (in the mind and with the hand and genitals). However, not everyone believes that. What is your girlfriend's belief concerning porn? Porn is a very important topic to discuss honestly because people have differing views on it. While some women are fine with it, others are hurt by it. Their feelings should not be disregarded or mocked but rather should be taken into consideration by their loved ones. Does it hurt her that you look at other women and lust after them?
If it does hurt her and she considers it a type of cheating, then you can exercise self-control and put your mind to doing something else if you want. It's all in the mind. Love makes sacrifices sometimes.
Blessings.
Original post by Christianlady
It doesn't make you a bad person. However, it shows that self-gratification is very important to you.
Personally, I believe viewing/masturbating to porn is a type of cheating (in the mind and with the hand and genitals). However, not everyone believes that. What is your girlfriend's belief concerning porn? Porn is a very important topic to discuss honestly because people have differing views on it. While some women are fine with it, others are hurt by it. Their feelings should not be disregarded or mocked but rather should be taken into consideration by their loved ones. Does it hurt her that you look at other women and lust after them?
If it does hurt her and she considers it a type of cheating, then you can exercise self-control and put your mind to doing something else if you want. It's all in the mind. Love makes sacrifices sometimes.
Blessings.
Personally, I believe viewing/masturbating to porn is a type of cheating (in the mind and with the hand and genitals). However, not everyone believes that. What is your girlfriend's belief concerning porn? Porn is a very important topic to discuss honestly because people have differing views on it. While some women are fine with it, others are hurt by it. Their feelings should not be disregarded or mocked but rather should be taken into consideration by their loved ones. Does it hurt her that you look at other women and lust after them?
If it does hurt her and she considers it a type of cheating, then you can exercise self-control and put your mind to doing something else if you want. It's all in the mind. Love makes sacrifices sometimes.
Blessings.
Yes self-gratification is important to me because I'm emotionally weak and a little scared boy
Original post by Izzyeviel
Dare i ask what fitspo is?
Like thinspo except with athletic girls.
Original post by Izzyeviel
Dare i ask what fitspo is?
Fitspiration-specifically fitness models
This one's a bit more dubious for me because at least porn can just be considered masturbating to an act rather than a person :/
It all depends on her really.
Personally, we have a pretty much unspoken agreement that if the other person is away for a while, rather than doing it to porn, we do it to the thought of the other person, so it can't possibly be construed as cheating.
If you're watching porn to get aroused by the sexual act, she'd probably be fine with it and I wouldn't have any problem with it, but the fitspo thing implies you're doing it to look at other girls, which is crossing into potentially dodgy territory.
However, there are many girls who wouldn't mind their boyfriend looking at other girls in porn; you just need to know if she's one of them. If so, you're fine, if not, consider maybe trying to get yourself off to the thought of her? Or just watch regular porn rather than anything with specific models, she would probably understand that more
Personally, we have a pretty much unspoken agreement that if the other person is away for a while, rather than doing it to porn, we do it to the thought of the other person, so it can't possibly be construed as cheating.
If you're watching porn to get aroused by the sexual act, she'd probably be fine with it and I wouldn't have any problem with it, but the fitspo thing implies you're doing it to look at other girls, which is crossing into potentially dodgy territory.
However, there are many girls who wouldn't mind their boyfriend looking at other girls in porn; you just need to know if she's one of them. If so, you're fine, if not, consider maybe trying to get yourself off to the thought of her? Or just watch regular porn rather than anything with specific models, she would probably understand that more
It's just porn. As long as you're not off boning some other chick, you're in the clear.
Original post by Riku
Basically my girlfriend has gone to visit her family for the rest of the summer, I really miss her and it sounds pathetic that I can't hold it in for 6 weeks but I can't so I'm turning to porn and fitspo
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
Does this make me a bad person, should I feel ashamed? I wonder whether it means I don't care enough for her
Other guys wouldnt have cared.
Everyone watches it, stop being so wet.
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