This is the most difficult time in my life..

Hi, basically I'm a girl..
I've known this guy for quite a while and everything started off as friends..
but we have always had the intention of seeing each other as 'potentials' not just a minor relationship or fling.
We really really like each other and everything was going good..
However, recently my mother found out I speak to this guy and she told him strictly 'never text my daughter again' and has told me to stay within my limits too..
She's told me I'm too young and should concentrate on my studies first and later in life I can always tell her about any guy I have in mind..
I haven't spoken to him for a couple of days because I don't want to break my parents' trust, but I am missing him terribly..
What do i do?

How old are you?

Are you Muslim or Indian by any chance?

Muslim

So I'm guessing that the boy you like isn't a Muslim?

He is a Muslim too

18 in a few months

Oh, so the only reason why your mum doesn't want you talking to him is because she wants you to focus on your studies?

I think that in one way it's fair enough, as I presume you're currently doing your A-Levels and so you should be trying to get the best grades you can for University.

On the other hand, you should be able to do what you want really, and if the relationship messed up your grades or affected them in any way, at least you would know for sure that it was wrong, and you would know how to correct it in future.

Take it you're living in the UK?

I can't relate to the culture issues but at 18 you need to set the tone of the relationship with your parents.

If you want to lead your own life - you might be best considering leaving home like going to uni...

i totally agree with my parents telling me to concentrate on my studies, because i really don't want to fall behind..
i NEED to get to university..

but the question is, how do i get over him?

yeah i live in the UK

well i'm 17 at the moment, still a baby in my parents' eyes lol

my parents' happiness is the most important thing for me which is why i have stopped talking to him.. but i can't pick up a new routine..
what am i supposed to do in the time i usually would have been speaking to him?

i'm going to uni next year but living at home..

Have you told him this yet? I take it you're in sixth form, so take it that her 'later in life' means until the end of A Levels when you'll be able to talk to her about it freely and 'un-concentrate'. If the relationship is worth anything to you both, you'll be able to wait.

How often do you see him, like unintentionally?

i don't see him.. if i did it would be way harder..
he lives in another city

How have you talked to him? Like just texting or Facebook and other social media?

i totally agree with my parents telling me to concentrate on my studies, because i really don't want to fall behind..
i NEED to get to university..

but the question is, how do i get over him?

I don't know what to say.

It is perfectly possible to fall in love, get amazing A levels and go university (I did all 3 in upper sixth) so I don't understand the reasoning.

More worryingly it's your life (and not your parents) and your happiness should be your priority.

I have lost count of the number of people I have meet who made choices based purely on their parents' wishes - who later really regret it!

How have you talked to him? Like just texting or Facebook and other social media?