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Why is a forbidden relationship so attractive?

Autistic Merit

Of course they are immoral.

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Reply 1

karmacrunch

Original post by Autistic Merit

What I'm talking about is a relationship with someone who, for whatever reason, you are not allowed to have a relationship with. Some examples could be your teacher, doctor, cousin or your friend's partner. Why are these desirable to some?

Note: I am not saying that forbidden relationships are always more desirable than non-forbidden ones. That would be absurd.

I don't think that 'forbidden' relationships are more desirable in anyway. It's just that some people have fallen for someone who in some ways they can't have.

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MidnightDream

Sometimes they have basically just fallen for someone they can't have but back to the question :grin:

I guess some people just like the feeling of being rebellious and doing something they're not supposed to do, or in this case, liking someone they're not supposed to like. It's like when my mum tells me not to do something and I end up doing it anyway :teehee:

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Hariex

Original post by Autistic Merit

Perhaps because it adds urgency, danger, vivacity and stakes to the relationship? Maybe people are looking for that kind of risk.

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It's like a kid that wants a toy and then gets bored of it a short while later, just an inherent instinct to try and prove people wrong when they say 'you can't do this' whether it's what you really want or not.

I think there was also something to do regarding chemistry in the brain, let me google it

Edit - levels of dopamine (the pleasure chemical in the brain) continue to rise the longer you must wait to fulfill your desire, so it feels better to achieve something difficult or forbidden than something eaasy

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