Just wanted advice, feel like I&#x27;ve wasted my whole life don&#x27;t know what to think..

Not at all i think everyone reaches different points in their life and different times! some people dont date till their late 30s! its like my sister shes 44 and recently had twins but what am getting at is she feels that she has wasted her life messing around with men lol and getting no education. So you can look at it all ways to be honest and I think at 29 you can mess about for as long as you want your free and single just live : )

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men and children are everything! alot of women wait till way more mature these days anyway due to jobs money etc and also finding the right man!

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Original post by angelseyes

Not at all i think everyone reaches different points in their life and different times! some people dont date till their late 30s! its like my sister shes 44 and recently had twins but what am getting at is she feels that she has wasted her life messing around with men lol and getting no education. So you can look at it all ways to be honest and I think at 29 you can mess about for as long as you want your free and single just live : )

Hi thanks. Well I guess I put education first but it doesn't matter anyway as I'm changing career now and it's another 4 years of training to be what I want to be :/ also I was too busy being anxious in my early 20's and quitting jobs etc had no social life. I know what you mean you can look at it in different ways I suppose most people have sacrificed areas of their lives for other things it is interesting that your sister thinks that. I think that at least she has made the most of her child bearing years as we only have so much time to have kids but we can get an education any time of our lives.

out of interest what age did your sister have twins was she worried about running out of time etc

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Original post by angelseyes

men and children are everything! alot of women wait till way more mature these days anyway due to jobs money etc and also finding the right man!

Are men and children really everything? Didn't know whether that was a hint of sarcasm or not hah. But yea that's what I mean I've missed out on loads I've had short hair all through my twenties I've been keeping fit physical fitness was all that mattered to meIve only only just grown my hair long and realised I'm not all that ugly and that I can look average/half decent if I try lol. Thing is I'm not sure when I should start aiming to settle down (that's if I can since plenty men my age are taken/married!)

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Original post by inthedark1

Hi thanks. Well I guess I put education first but it doesn't matter anyway as I'm changing career now and it's another 4 years of training to be what I want to be :/ also I was too busy being anxious in my early 20's and quitting jobs etc had no social life. I know what you mean you can look at it in different ways I suppose most people have sacrificed areas of their lives for other things it is interesting that your sister thinks that. I think that at least she has made the most of her child bearing years as we only have so much time to have kids but we can get an education any time of our lives.

out of interest what age did your sister have twins was she worried about running out of time etc

she had them at 44 shes only had them a few months back lol twins increase with age!

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If you did what you wanted to be doing then it certainly wasn't wasting time. The fundamental goal of all life, that humans often overlook by measuring themselves against a more materialistic "success" (good job etc) is to be happy. So if you were happy, then those years of your life were successful. YOU GO GURL!

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Original post by angelseyes

she had them at 44 shes only had them a few months back lol twins increase with age!

Really that's cool. I might as well wait then and have 2 in one go hah, see I always assumed 40 was generally the cut off point for having children I've never really looked into it.

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Original post by inthedark1

Are men and children really everything? Didn't know whether that was a hint of sarcasm or not hah. But yea that's what I mean I've missed out on loads I've had short hair all through my twenties I've been keeping fit physical fitness was all that mattered to meIve only only just grown my hair long and realised I'm not all that ugly and that I can look average/half decent if I try lol. Thing is I'm not sure when I should start aiming to settle down (that's if I can since plenty men my age are taken/married!)

It sounds like you are worrying way too much your so young! have people been telling you all this or is it just how you feel? because honestly people arent married by the age of 29!! most people cant even afford it! and still live it home due to costs. Most people today are still in education at that age but again it doesnt really matter as 29 is nothing

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Original post by inthedark1

Really that's cool. I might as well wait then and have 2 in one go hah, see I always assumed 40 was generally the cut off point for having children I've never really looked into it.

well they say 47 but it goes by how healthy you are! some women look 21 at 45! some women really blossom as they get older

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hey if your that worried about it freeze some eggs lol!

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I know another lady who had her first at 40 she was a hair dresser and then had a second daughter at the age of 45 she has the two girls lovely children! they are about 7 and 10 now i think something like that. But I remember her saying that if she had had the girls in her 20s she would not have been responsible at all!! yet some 20 year olds are ready for it which is why am saying everyone is different and you shouldnt compare yourself to anyone else because everyones time is different :smile:

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Original post by inthedark1

Hi thanks. Well I guess I put education first but it doesn't matter anyway as I'm changing career now and it's another 4 years of training to be what I want to be :/ also I was too busy being anxious in my early 20's and quitting jobs etc had no social life. I know what you mean you can look at it in different ways I suppose most people have sacrificed areas of their lives for other things it is interesting that your sister thinks that. I think that at least she has made the most of her child bearing years as we only have so much time to have kids but we can get an education any time of our lives.

out of interest what age did your sister have twins was she worried about running out of time etc

What is it your studying now for 4 years? sounds fun : )

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Original post by angelseyes

It sounds like you are worrying way too much your so young! have people been telling you all this or is it just how you feel? because honestly people arent married by the age of 29!! most people cant even afford it! and still live it home due to costs. Most people today are still in education at that age but again it doesnt really matter as 29 is nothing

Well I suppose it doesn't help that I read a daft article on the internet about woman finding it hard to get men after 35, men not wanting to settle with older women and opting for younger more fertile women instead. A lot of men commented on it saying stuff like women should grab a man while they are young as no one wants a '40 year old infertile woman'. I suppose it made me feel crap but I've realised it's probably just be a load of bitter men saying that lol. I've never worried about stuff like this in the past never given it a thought before but as I'm not too far off 30 it shocked me a bit and made me feel like I've wasted my youth. I don't know, like you said it depends how you look at it.

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Original post by angelseyes

What is it your studying now for 4 years? sounds fun : )

Well I have to do an access course first and then I'd like to do Occupational therapy, hopefully!

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