I'm in my early twenties, family to me is far more important than having an ambitious career. I know I'm not old, but I'm not a spring chicken any more either and do not wish to waste my time in a dead end relationship. I just feel like it's hard to judge if it's dead end or not when I love him and he's become one of my closest friends.
The things that make me think it is dead end, is that we've been together over six months and he has not said .'I love you'. He says he doesn't not love me but doesn't know if he does yet. He also flits between wanting children and thinking 'they're so annoying i don't understand why anyone has children'.
On the other end, I'm at university and we were only together in the summer for about a month before going long distance. The fact that we survive when I know long distance is so hard even for well established couples gives me hope.
But most the time I feel like I'm more into him then he's into me, it doesn't feel nice and I don't know even if he does commit (he's admitted he and I getting married isn't out of the realm of possibility) if I'll still feel like I don't know like he never had that honeymoon period of being infatuated with me. I know that's not real love, but can real love develop in the absence of that?
If it helps...here is a list of his boyfriend behaviours:
+ He calls me every day
+ I've met his family and friends
+ He spent all his time off in the xmas holidays with me
+ When I come over he's really thoughtful with getting things like milk for me (even though he doesn't drink milk)/ will get something he knows I like
- He doesn't want to bother visiting me at uni...I've made the effort a few times this term - I've made it clear it's now up to him to come to me
- When we talk he wants me to listen more than talk...sometimes I feel like he doesn't care how I am
- He's probably made less of an effort with my family than any of my exes
- No I love you after six months