Being yourself and cheating at society. Why not?

How is he being self-righteous? As said before, maybe your social life has alwaysbeen smooth sailing, and being sociable and socially confident comes naturally to you, but nt to all people. It's harder still when your social inadequacies are preyed upon or are a hindrance in those crucial younger years. As one previous poster said, some people just don't have this problem. Perhaps try seeing it from that perspective. By the argument you people posit here, somebody who prefers football to schoolwork, has no business putting football practice on hold to study, even if he wants the benefits of a good degree. "He isn't being true to himself," after all. Below seems a more charitable interpretation of what he was trying to express, than anything you people have said.

The people who aren't naturally sociable, always lose out. It becomes a conscious effort to exorcise this social disability. This is a consciously acquired ability, learned by acquiring social skills, interests and pursuits that may be naturally alien. So to ridicule the OP about his efforts, and no doubt his sense of achievement at having done this, seems harsh. It isn't weak minded, it's difficult and admirable specifically because it goes against the grain. Face it, some people who are, for whatever reason, socially inept and cannot take for granted the confidence and camaraderie that comes with social success. They may justifiably choose not to display

Because he's trying to pass this whole thing off as something new, something miraculous, when it's not.

Read tanusha-tomsk's post because she makes an excellent point.

Hmmm... and what if I don't even want a girl who is "socially equivalent" to me?

how does being fake go against the grain?

What if I wanna interact with people from other groups? What if I don't want to be limited to my own "friendship group"?

What if I wanna interact with people from other groups? What if I don't want to be limited to my own "friendship group"?

How is being "fake" "bad" if it doesn't affect you? You people are being incredibly priggish about all this. If it's what he wants, then let him have it.

so you want to hang around with people you have little in common with, merely for status or acceptance?

Or perhaps because in it, he sees something he wants to be, or wants to have?

because as ive said a number of times its weak, and i hate weak people especially when its to seek popularity and acceptance or to take the easy way out.

It's pragmatic, not "weak" It's not about the easy way out, but about doing what you must to get what you want out of life. And is wanting acceptance so bad, by the way? Get out of your own arse and stop being so judgemental.

so basically all this is is the old story of the geek wanting to become popular.

why would you want acceptance from people you have NOTHING in common with please tell me????

Why shouldn't the geek want to be popular? Who are you to say what he ought to aim for in life?

This is about him not "me", so I cannot possibly answer ont hat. It is also a splendidly big red herring. Why would somebody who's interested in football, study for a degree in history? Who knows, they just see somethign they want in that. How dare anybody say what he "ought" to want. And that is what you are saying.

be popular amongst the geeks then, not the people who are completely different from you.

WHY? Again, who are you to tell him who he ought to be popular with?! What if it's not what he wants. The burden of proof si on you to say why he should "stick with the geeks".