feel disgusted after sex

this is a regular thing... once i cum i feel like i need to escape straight away.

its not fair on the girl but i just look at her and think "slut", i dont get lovey dovey and cuddle after sex... i just feel the need to be alone..

im not gonna ask if this is normal.. maybe common?

Reply 1

Kevin De Bruyne

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Original post by Anonymous

this is a regular thing... once i cum i feel like i need to escape straight away.

its not fair on the girl but i just look at her and think "slut", i dont get lovey dovey and cuddle after sex... i just feel the need to be alone..

im not gonna ask if this is normal.. maybe common?

Yes, it's called la petite morte. She wants to cuddle because she isn't completely finished, and it's difficult for a guy to return her affection.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

something to do with post ejaculation depression...

i "suffered" from it a while back.. but now im in a meaningful relationship and it doesnt happen

Reply 3

Liquid Harvest

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It's common when you're f***ing a slut, you think to yourself what am I doing with my life. Doesn't feel great afterwards.

Reply 4

goodies

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I'm sure that feeling goes away after a while.

Reply 5

TheonlyMrsHolmes

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Oh wow, this actually happens? :redface:

I have a lot to learn I see...

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by goodies

I'm sure that feeling goes away after a while.

would you say ~3 years is a while ?

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

something to do with post ejaculation depression...

i "suffered" from it a while back.. but now im in a meaningful relationship and it doesnt happen

I don't understand. If it doesn't happen why did you write this post?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

I don't understand. If it doesn't happen why did you write this post?

wanted to know if others have experienced it, fear it may happen with other girls again and not my gf

Reply 9

Pollyanna1998

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Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes

Oh wow, this actually happens? :redface:

I have a lot to learn I see...

TBH i thought all guys just loved sex. Sex here, sex there, sex everywhere.

As a virgin I've never experienced the "get away from me you slut" vibe kind of thing, but I'm guessing if a guy has a one night stand with somebody, he loses the incentive of 'chasing' after a girl. Therefore loses respect etc? Men are strange creatures.

Reply 10

Pollyanna1998

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Original post by Anonymous

I don't understand. If it doesn't happen why did you write this post?

Spoiler

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Pollyanna1998

Spoiler

no you misunderstood, the question i was asking was whether it was a common thing among males

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Pollyanna1998

TBH i thought all guys just loved sex. Sex here, sex there, sex everywhere.

As a virgin I've never experienced the "get away from me you slut" vibe kind of thing, but I'm guessing if a guy has a one night stand with somebody, he loses the incentive of 'chasing' after a girl. Therefore loses respect etc? Men are strange creatures.

no, nothing to do with respect, maybe you dont understand because youre a girl.

Reply 13

LauraMayden1

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I had no idea stuff like this happened....

I thought guys didn't care as long as they got sex, but I guess some guys prefer to actually be emotionally connected and in a relationship with a girl in order to enjoy post sex cuddling. That's actually reassuring to know. Sorry I was judgemental against you males.

Reply 14

LauraMayden1

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Original post by Anonymous

no, nothing to do with respect, maybe you dont understand because youre a girl.

What's it to do with then? I'd like to know more about it. Do you feel disgusted that she gave herself to you so easily, and because you hardly know each other and you've just done something so physically intimate with someone who you're not so emotionally intimate with?

Reply 15

Jibola240

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Original post by Pollyanna1998

TBH i thought all guys just loved sex. Sex here, sex there, sex everywhere.

As a virgin I've never experienced the "get away from me you slut" vibe kind of thing, but I'm guessing if a guy has a one night stand with somebody, he loses the incentive of 'chasing' after a girl. Therefore loses respect etc? Men are strange creatures.

I believe the OP is describing the post ejaculation feeling. Basically once a guy is finished, all desire for sex temporarily disappears. You're no longer horney and your mind clears up. How long this last usually varies depending on the guy. It can feel awful especially after watching porn, but it usually doesn't last long. I'm not sure if girls experience the same thing when masterbating or having sex.

Reply 16

whorace

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Original post by LauraMayden1

I had no idea stuff like this happened....

I thought guys didn't care as long as they got sex, but I guess some guys prefer to actually be emotionally connected and in a relationship with a girl in order to enjoy post sex cuddling. That's actually reassuring to know. Sorry I was judgemental against you males.

Women on tsr think that all sex is equal? Damn socialists

Reply 17

Landsquid

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If this was the other way around I reckon the resident feminist would be calling for you to report to the police that you was raped ... But seeing as you're a guy , this is a normal feeling .. You get used to it after a while , some people have a similar experience just watching porn

Reply 18

Jibola240

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Original post by LauraMayden1

What's it to do with then? I'd like to know more about it. Do you feel disgusted that she gave herself to you so easily, and because you hardly know each other and you've just done something so physically intimate with someone who you're not so emotionally intimate with?

Not the OP, but It's like a post orgasim guilt. Once all that exitement is over, sexual arousal dissapears completely, your mind clears up and you start to critcally reflect the situation. I think how a male feels depends on his morality. Most get used it.

This article kinda explains it better than I possibly can:

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/post-orgasm-regret-lal/

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 19

Anonymous #3

Original post by Liquid Harvest

It's common when you're f***ing a slut, you think to yourself what am I doing with my life. Doesn't feel great afterwards.