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Got a girl to meetup with me, now how to get her interested?

I've managed to get a girl who I've been in the friendzone with for some time to catch up for a outing/meal next weekend? I've made it a group activity & asked a few other people (basically couples) who are up for coming along. Now this is my chance to get closer to her, but as I'm very inexperienced (almost 24 & never had a GF or anything) I'm not quite sure how to play it. She's also just coming off a recent breakup but we've known each other for ages & get on pretty well online.

Anyway how do you make her develop feelings, are there little things you can do to get her interested in a romantic way rather than just as friends? I know I'll probably be really nervous but this is a big opportunity for me to try & get her to be interested? I'm just not exactly sure how, are there any little things you can do? She already knows I'm friendly & am good for a laugh but that isn't exactly enough in the dating game. Thanks for any constructive responses! :smile:

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Well one on one would have been better and I'de have just been bold and asked her to do that tbh. I mean, the group setting makes it awkward since it diminishes potential topics of discussion that you could specialise to her.

Still, it is better than nothing I guess and you will hopefully be less nervous in such a scenario. You just have to show that you care in a way that probably exceeds an ordinary friendship. Use anything as an excuse to touch her. Eye contact. Makes jokes about her/to her (obviously don't embarrass her too much or insult her; duhhh).

Make sure you tell her afterwards how much you enjoyed spending time with her and that you'de like to do it again in the future, although this time, maybe alone rather than with other friends...

Reply 2

Rajbir Lorriet

Don't do anything she doesn't like. Always care about herself and go according to her direction.

Reply 3

George Costanza

Do not make her do anything.

Behave in a manner indicative of your actual sense, lest you wish for the lucky lady to potentially find herself in a relationship with somebody she is not actually smitten with. If she likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, you are still you and it shall not work out. Be the best you you can be and, one day, with many leg raises and possibly prayers, you could 1% of I - George CooooosTANZA.

Reply 4

RhymeAsylumForever

Lol advice given is rubbish. If you want to take things to the next level you have to flirt with her. Make physical contact regularly and make her laugh - simple

Reply 5

Enoxial

Better use Google than ask tsr

Reply 6

username1551801

Original post by Enoxial

Better use Google than ask tsr

Best advice I've ever seen on TSR.

Reply 7

thisistheend

Original post by Multitalented me

I've managed to get a girl who I've been in the friendzone with for sometime to catch up for a outing/meal next weekend? I've made it a group activity & asked a few other people (basically couples) who are up for coming along. Now this is my chance to get closer to her, but as I'm very inexperienced (almost 24 & never had a GF or anything) I'm not quite sure how to play it. She's also just coming off a recent breakup but we've known each other for ages & get on pretty well online.

Anyway how do you make her develop feelings, are there little things you can do to get her interested in a romantic way rather than just as friends? I know I'll probably be really nervous but this is a big opportunity for me to try & get her to be interested? I'm just not exactly sure how, are there any little things you can do? She already knows I'm friendly & am good for a laugh but that isn't exactly enough in the dating game. Thanks for any constructive responses! :smile:

If she's meeting with you. She's already interested.

Reply 8

Betelgeuse-

A sure fire thing to get her hook line and sinker would be to show here your extensive star wars collection and impeccable TSR reputation points on your first date

gl Soldier!

Reply 9

Betelgeuse-

Wear a leather jacket, bring some hard liquor. Slick your hairback and chew on a toothpick and act cool. The only way to break the solidified barrier she has mentally put you in known as the friend zone

Reply 10

Awesome Genius

Just be all like, 'i love you, now, lets have sex'.

Reply 11

Zarek

Dress well, be friendly, humorous and try to judge her interest level. If there is some encouragement then ask her out on a one to one date as soon as possible. Good luck

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Reply 12

Zarek

[QUOTE=thisistheend;59268751]If she's meeting with you. She's already interested.Not necessarily from what OP describes, it's more of a social gathering which could mean she is just interested in an evening out, just being friendly and polite or indeed that there is some romantic curiosity there.

Reply 13

username927016

Original post by Zarek

Not necessarily from what OP describes, it's more of a social gathering which could mean she is just interested in an evening out, just being friendly and polite or indeed that there is some romantic curiosity there.

Yeah that's basically where I stand. Basically she said she doesn't see me in a romantic way to "my friend" after he told her if she'd ever consider going out with me :redface:

She didn't rule out dating me though, so if we meet up more & more in person then something could develop perhaps :smile:

Reply 14

Zarek

[QUOTE=Multitalented me;59274347]Yeah that's basically where I stand. Basically she said she doesn't see me in a romantic way to "my friend" after he told her if she'd ever consider going out with me :redface:

She didn't rule out dating me though, so if we meet up more & more in person then something could develop perhaps :smile:

My advice, from hard experience, is to weigh it up, ask her out if there is a some encouragement and move on if there is not or if you go for it and she says no. Unrequited love is humiliating and angst risen and that energy is far better put in to finding someone who is enthusiastic. Hope it works out though.

Reply 15

So Instinct

Shouldn't have made it a group activity, I wouldn't play it so safe. Still, no point crying over spilt milk- It's cliché but have genuine fun and don't filter your thoughts. The more you think about what to say that sounds cool the less chances you'll say anything remotely interesting.

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Reply 16

username927016

Original post by Zarek

Yeah seems like a solid approach, cheers dude :yy:

I'm gonna give it a few days (since she just had a breakup) then get back to her, & probably change it to a one to one (date?) give her a date & time & hopefully she won't bail & it all ends up going great! :daydreaming: