More of a rant than anything so I apologise in advance for the length. I'll try and simplify.
I'm currently in a relationship that's been long distance for the last 7 months. So woke up this morning to a boyfriend who had either deactivated his Facebook account or blocked me. Obviously text very annoyed and had no reply. Returned from uni at 1, checked Facebook on laptop and saw a couple of messages in "Others" folder. A girl messaging to tell me my boyfriend is a lying cheating c**t. Pictures of his Plenty of Fish Profile and said she could send me all messages.
So she did. All 60 screenshots. From an 8 day period. All during which I was getting 5 messages a day if I was lucky telling me he was too busy and too stressed to have the time to speak to me and help me with my problems. Had proof it came from his mobile number. Tried several times to get a hold of him through text, acting as though I knew nothing. Finally got a reply at 10pm, after his mum text him and told him we all knew, still completely denying everything.
He has a car which I got in MY name he was meeting up with this girl in. Talking about watching the Netflix I pay for together. As well as talking about how he really likes her and would like to be dating her, she's so cute, etc. Guessed his usual password and got onto his profile on the website where there were another 11 girls messaged and his mobile number given.
He's now almost stopped trying to lie about it. But when I've told him I want to save our 2.5 year relationship if he's able to fight for it and I can potentially forgive at some point, all I get is a pity party of "what I did was disgusting, I have no moral compass, you deserve better".
Of course, 2 weeks ago when he was home to visit I saw him on a strange app which he was so quick to hide and bit my head of and told me it was a group chat when I asked what he was up to (generally being curious - worth noting he sits and reads my phone over my shoulder). And swore point blank I was basically psychotic and imagining things when I thought there was someone else on the go.
And if course his mum is full of "I understand your angry, but he text me and said he's so sorry and he really loves you". Of course, when I tell her my opinion of the OBVIOUS flaws in that statement, all I got was her telling me she's not falling out with me. She can do what she fu***ng likes, I'm no satisfied, we Will be finished.
Very VERY condensed version. Probably missed loads of big points. Just had to let some of it out