Hi
I've got a big big problem.
I met my best friend when we were living together in halls and we quickly became super close, we use to do all these crazy things and just be silly around each other all the time. We decided to move into a house with a few other people for our second year.
After summer we moved in together and we kept having loads of fun, but by the end of the year she started to change. She didn't want to go out or do stuff anymore and she seemed to spent all her time by herself in her room or hanging out inside the house with the other housemates. I didn't mind it, but I need to get out much more than her, so I started hanging out with other friends.
Now we are in our third year and everyone in the house is new but us two. We tend to hang out a lot, wether it is just to watch a movie or to go out, but my friend never wants to join us. I've got really close to all my new housemates, but I've always made the effort to try and include her in everything we do: I keep popping up in her room to talk to her and get her to socialise, but she doesn't want to.
At first I thought she might had been going through some down time, so I didn't bring it up, but it's been almost a year now. She spends the whole day in the library and the gets home and locks herself in her room. She keeps using the fact that she has too much work to avoid socialising, but I know that is not the case - I have friends in the same course. She is also getting extremely annoyed by things like the house not being spotless, when last year she didn't give a ****.
I'm scared that she's using the work and cleaning excuses to hide the fact that she's depressed and feels left out, but I seriously don't know what to do anymore. I've tried talking to her about seeing a therapist but she refuses to do it and she's just making herself more and more miserable every day. I can see the sadness on her face and it breaks my heart to know that something like this is making us grow apart.
Has any of you faced a problem like this before? Is there anything I can do to stop it?
Thanks!