Hopeless virign, how do i ask her out??
So i'm a 25 year old virgin failure still doing my undergrad. Most of the people my age are married and have moved on and are in professional jobs.
There was a girl i sat next to at church on purpose so i could talk to her. I even got there early to do it. She left before i could say anything as the pastor overran. Anyway there's a girl in my social circles that I see at least once a week at socials. We've been talking a lot and i think i'm falling in love with her lol. She's really lovely and always looks at me and greets me all the time.
I wanna ask her out so badly but part of me just thinks she'll laugh in my face and reject me. At the same time, i cannot live knowing that I didn't even try. I get voices in my head that always convince me that all women hate me and don't wanna talk to me. I spent this weekend hanging out with her and being independent and i really loved it.
This really is my last chance at having sex and being loved. The danger is that if i get rejected, things will be awkward as we hang out a lot. It doesn't matter what i do or how much she's nice to me, i just get voices in my head and imagine the worst scenario possible. What can i do?? I've thought about getting escorts to lose it but that it just giving up and i don't wanna do it.
There was a girl i sat next to at church on purpose so i could talk to her. I even got there early to do it. She left before i could say anything as the pastor overran. Anyway there's a girl in my social circles that I see at least once a week at socials. We've been talking a lot and i think i'm falling in love with her lol. She's really lovely and always looks at me and greets me all the time.
I wanna ask her out so badly but part of me just thinks she'll laugh in my face and reject me. At the same time, i cannot live knowing that I didn't even try. I get voices in my head that always convince me that all women hate me and don't wanna talk to me. I spent this weekend hanging out with her and being independent and i really loved it.
This really is my last chance at having sex and being loved. The danger is that if i get rejected, things will be awkward as we hang out a lot. It doesn't matter what i do or how much she's nice to me, i just get voices in my head and imagine the worst scenario possible. What can i do?? I've thought about getting escorts to lose it but that it just giving up and i don't wanna do it.
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You shouldn't fear to ask her out. And you can't think that she's the last either... anything could happen 
. plus whether you're virgin or not shouldn't matter. I mean, if everyone feared to ask someone out because they were virgin, how would the human race survive?
. plus whether you're virgin or not shouldn't matter. I mean, if everyone feared to ask someone out because they were virgin, how would the human race survive?
I'm sure there are no women that hate you and if you want to ask her out, go for it! But I think you need to remember that losing your vriginity shouldn't be something to 'check off' a list and you need to remember that Ervin if this girl wants to go out with, there aren't any guarantee that she'll want that and you shouldn't automatically expect it of her
Original post by Anonymous
This really is my last chance at having sex
This should definitely not be the first thing on your mind smh
Original post by AthiaKarim
Wait...so the girl you met at church isn't the girl you've fallen in love with now?
No they're two different girls. The first one i didn't speak to. The one i've fallen in love with i've been hanging out with since about last November.
Original post by Alexion
This should definitely not be the first thing on your mind smh
I agree lol. 😂
Original post by AthiaKarim
I agree lol. 😂
I was gonna offer some genuine advice up until I read that, then I just thought "there's no hope"
Original post by AthiaKarim
I agree lol. 😂
deffo agree
Original post by Anonymous
So i'm a 25 year old virgin failure still doing my undergrad...
This really is my last chance at having sex and being loved. .
This really is my last chance at having sex and being loved. .
HOW IS THIS YOUR LAST CHANCE!?!
You're 25, not 50.
Also, you put having sex before being loved...
Original post by Anonymous
No they're two different girls. The first one i didn't speak to. The one i've fallen in love with i've been hanging out with since about last November.
Oh right ok.
Well Anon. What I would say to you is that don't feel rushed into dating the first girl you encounter as you feel like it's time or you're getting older.
Do it because you like/love her.
As you have mentioned in your post that you have fallen in love with her, I think that's great. And I think you should be honest and give it a shot. Be causal about it, nothing serious, ask her out on a lunch date. See how it goes and if you both enjoy eachother company outside you friendship circle.
I wish you all the best of luck.
Be honest with her! Tell her you like her
Original post by Alexion
I was gonna offer some genuine advice up until I read that, then I just thought "there's no hope"
LMAO can you ignore it and at least offer genuine advice?
Original post by Alexion
I was gonna offer some genuine advice up until I read that, then I just thought "there's no hope"
Lmao. I tried to overlook/ignore that comment. And tried to help anon. It does sound like he's in dire need of help. Anon needs us. 😂
Church isn't the best place to be looking tbh. You're only 25 so this definitely isn't your last hope to lose your virginity. Maybe if you focus more on getting to know a girl and enjoying her company you might find one more willing to sleep with you. Desperate men only out for an easy lay are not in the least bit attractive.
Original post by whorace
- Wants to lose virginity
- Tries to pickup girls in a church
Have you tried a Mosque in Saudi Arabia?
- Tries to pickup girls in a church
Have you tried a Mosque in Saudi Arabia?
I don't actively go to church to try and pick women up. I just happen to see them there and i like them.
Matey - what you have is called oneitis (here watch my video on it) - your lack of abundance and experiences means that you easily fall for a girl who is mildly friendly to you and there's this halo effect where you think she's perfect in so many ways even though you don't know her that well.
Since you put so many eggs in one basket so to speak, I don't think it's the right situation to find out because you've thought too much about it and that will stifle you.
Since you put so many eggs in one basket so to speak, I don't think it's the right situation to find out because you've thought too much about it and that will stifle you.
Original post by Mustard-man
Matey - what you have is called oneitis (here watch my video on it) - your lack of abundance and experiences means that you easily fall for a girl who is mildly friendly to you and there's this halo effect where you think she's perfect in so many ways even though you don't know her that well.
Since you put so many eggs in one basket so to speak, I don't think it's the right situation to find out because you've thought too much about it and that will stifle you.
Since you put so many eggs in one basket so to speak, I don't think it's the right situation to find out because you've thought too much about it and that will stifle you.
That's a cool video. I wouldn't say I've got oneitis to the point where I think she's the one but I do like her. I certainly do no think she's perfect!
What would be your advice then? I've tried calling her twice but no answer. The first time round she just said "Sorry mate, I was busy"
Original post by Anonymous
That's a cool video. I wouldn't say I've got oneitis to the point where I think she's the one but I do like her. I certainly do no think she's perfect!
What would be your advice then? I've tried calling her twice but no answer. The first time round she just said "Sorry mate, I was busy"
What would be your advice then? I've tried calling her twice but no answer. The first time round she just said "Sorry mate, I was busy"
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