Would you ever cheat?

Would you ever cheat on a partner? Have you ever cheated? Personally I cannot imagine a situation in which I would betray a partner in this way, particularly having experienced it myself, and cannot understand why someone would.

Cheating is wrong. Betraying a promise.

But why do we attach so much importance to monogamy?

Open relationships are the future.

Abolishing monogamy will actually save the institution of marriage.

Open relationships are cheating, you've just agreed it is acceptable to cheat.


I agree you have a right to an open relationship, but you are just rationalising your degeneracy by claiming it isn't cheating.

No. Get your facts right.

Google it.

So you don't subscribe to the opinion of 'once a cheat, always a cheat?' May I ask why?

Open relationships are cheating, you've just agreed it is acceptable to cheat.

I agree you have a right to an open relationship, but you are just rationalising your degeneracy by claiming it isn't cheating.

Anything outside monogamy is cheating, even religious polygamists disgust me, it's actual filth.

I disagree, cheating implies some abrogation of a set of rules (in this sense mutually agreed boundaries of your relations with others), and these rules would be different for people in an 'open' relationship, so you can't really say that is 'cheating', because it's a different game with different rules.


Not that I agree with 'open' relationships or would enter into one, I just think it's only 'cheating' in the framework of a non-open relationship, you can't apply those rules to the different game.

I knew someone would argue this

relationships have rules > monogamy is simply one set of rules > cheating is a breach of the preset rules HOWEVER it's wrong to assume monogamy is the only set of rules

if your relationship has turned into a set of rules like a contract you've drawn up, all the beauty of it is lost.

Yep.


I mean, that equally applies to non-open relationships, it's just that people don't feel the need to explain them because it is the norm.


And invoking notions of "the beauty of it" is pretty subjective and doesn't really operate as an argument against your (reproduction of my) logic above.

Language is itself subjective, so whilst it is true that I am biased and my personal understanding of relationships does not apply to every person, it is perfectly reasonable to believe that anything which does not fall outside monogamy is unfaithful if monogamy is a part of what my understanding of a romantic relationship is.