Overthinking help please!!! Male opinion needed!!

Hi people
Right males of this site (and women) I really need opinions on something that has been on my mind for months!

I have recently joined the second year of college. In the first year I had a small group of friends (all different age ranges). There was this one guy that I kinda fancied but he was 11years older than me so I never perused it. Anyway, we flirted back and forth most of the time when we saw each other, and he always made me feel happy with who I was. We got on great.... Probably a little too good to be honest... And had really good banter!

However, when it came to going into the second year, he decided he needed a job more than the course, and left. A few days before he left he pulled me aside and began seriously flirting... Even grabbed my ass a few times. Then for about a 2 months after college finished, we we in constant contact.

This is the but I am confused on; he never wanted to meet up with me or our group of friends, texts became fewer and fewer, most of the time ignores me now and really only contacts when it's sexual. I know now that he was just using me for a bit of fun, in fine with that, Im not interested in a relationship. But (and I know this will sound weird) I need opinions on the subject from other people, people who are unbiased. I need to put this behind me. All opinions welcome!

I know now that he was just using me for a bit of fun, in fine with that,

How old are you and him?.

Im 17..... He's 28

I would seriously move on and forget about him. When I was 19 I was in a similar situation and looking back I see now that he was only interested in me for one reason. It sounds like you know this already, which is good. The fact that he didn't want to meet up and now only messages you when he's horny or fancies a flirt speaks volumes. I'm 28 now *sob* and have had sooo many guys do this exact thing to me. You sound less naive than I was, so go you!

The grabbing your ass bit sounds kinda sleazy to be honest. Flirting or even being pretty forward is one thing, but I personally would be put off if a guy grabbed my bum. Anyway, I think you can safely assume that this guy is not the love of your life and there is no reason to keep letting him use you. Just ignore his next message and don't even humour him.

Wow, that's some difference.
And he is definitely a creep in my opinion for grabbing a 17 year old's bum, and sexting with her.

And what on earth is he doing in college at that age?.

Have to admit it did cross my mind as a little weird. That's why when I got a crush on him, I dismissed it coz of the gap. And he wanted to change his career path I think

Where is he from?.
And you?.

What the f*ck (no pun intended)? Nah but seriously, forget about him because that is no reason to be 'fine'. Seriously, why would you be fine with such a thing? Sounds like BS to me.

hahaha good pun btw yeah have to admit its a bit of b.s. I'm not fine with it... but not much i can do now its in the past, just need you guys on here to confirm what I'd been thinking so I could move on from it all. I'm very much an over-thinker lol

I would seriously move on and forget about him. When I was 19 I was in a similar situation and looking back I see now that he was only interested in me for one reason. It sounds like you know this already, which is good. The fact that he didn't want to meet up and now only messages you when he's horny or fancies a flirt speaks volumes. I'm 28 now *sob* and have had sooo many guys do this exact thing to me. You sound less naive than I was, so go you!

The grabbing your ass bit sounds kinda sleazy to be honest. Flirting or even being pretty forward is one thing, but I personally would be put off if a guy grabbed my bum. Anyway, I think you can safely assume that this guy is not the love of your life and there is no reason to keep letting him use you. Just ignore his next message and don't even humour him.

Yes it is good to get ideas from other people too, but it also helps to be assertive and just have some common sense - a bit hypocritical coming from a person like me, but that's what I think. I'm glad you can get over that though.

don't be silly everyone is entiltled to an opinion, if that is yours then thats that! as for the common sense bit... I never really had a talent for it lol. I shall be fine, everyone on here has confirmed that im not crazy and am right with my thought pattern lol. Now i know, I can move on from it

It's obvious he was taking advantage of your innocence.
You are 17 and innocent.
As a guy I am saying that.
I know how it works.
I am 24 and will never take advantage of a young girl like that.

well its good to know that there are guys out there who are decent! i seem to have a beacon that only guys who will try an take advantage or have deep emotional problems can hear lol. Can i ask you something? is there anything, like lines or comments,i need to look out for to avoid this sort of thing?... kinda like the trade secrets lol

A 28 year old man groping the bum of a 17 year old girl in college....hmmm man if i was your dad that "man" would probably end up in the hospital.

Well again I am not like that so I can't tell you the "secret of the trade".
But gra bing your ass abd sexting you, and being 11 years older than you is a telltale sign of a creepy guy who only wants sex.