What causes guys to be abusive to their gfs?
What is it? Why do they get to that point. Why can some guys handle themselves and just walk away whereas other guys cannot. They holler at you, push you down ect? Why is this ok in their eyes?
I wish I knew.
Massive insecurity. No sane guy would ever abuse his other half.
they do it because they want to control you
the type of people who do it are psychos, narcissists or those who suffer from little man syndrome... but most abusive guys are usually all three
can't really blame high testosterone or his past etc, some people are just born worse than others therefore they were probably always this way, there was nothing that you - the abused - did to make it happen. they are just good at making you believe that it is your fault that they beat you
so you can never really know. what you can do is go into a relationship prepared. set the rules from the start and make it known that you are not the type who will stay with an abusive person. if they go too far once - just once - you walk and stay walking! go to the police or tell your brothers even to beat him up. whatever happens don't just forgive him! Because do it once and he'll think he got away with it therefore he will eventually do it again
the type of people who do it are psychos, narcissists or those who suffer from little man syndrome... but most abusive guys are usually all three
can't really blame high testosterone or his past etc, some people are just born worse than others therefore they were probably always this way, there was nothing that you - the abused - did to make it happen. they are just good at making you believe that it is your fault that they beat you
so you can never really know. what you can do is go into a relationship prepared. set the rules from the start and make it known that you are not the type who will stay with an abusive person. if they go too far once - just once - you walk and stay walking! go to the police or tell your brothers even to beat him up. whatever happens don't just forgive him! Because do it once and he'll think he got away with it therefore he will eventually do it again
(edited 7 years ago)
Are you the girl from the other thread? If so you need to leave him ASAP 
Just an FYI, women abuse men too.
Anyway, multiple reasons and a difficult subject to get into as it's a lot to do with psychological issues. One's past/experiences can have an influence, as can mental health. Sometimes they're just not nice people, sometimes they may not even understand their behavior is abusive.
Ultimately, it falls down to them to seek help. They can only help themselves by taking action. Sadly not many people choose to do that.
Anyway, multiple reasons and a difficult subject to get into as it's a lot to do with psychological issues. One's past/experiences can have an influence, as can mental health. Sometimes they're just not nice people, sometimes they may not even understand their behavior is abusive.
Ultimately, it falls down to them to seek help. They can only help themselves by taking action. Sadly not many people choose to do that.
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